Death is not what you think. 7-Minute Reset Live [Replay]

So today's reset starts with a word most people hate, and that's death. Let's take a deep breath first. This just got real, very, very real for me. At 6 AM this morning, my friend Roland's body died in Thailand. He was in his early 40s.

About 6 months ago, he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, and he leaves behind his wife and his 2-year-old son.

And in those 6 months, knowing the clock was ticking, he made a very deliberate choice.

He chose hope. He chose joy.

He even started a YouTube channel to document that journey.

How he was meeting with cancer with much presence and love as he could, because he chose joy. That channel is actually one of the things that encouraged me to start this one and this Rebuild Dad, um, mission.

Shane, can you drop the link in the chat to the podcast we did on how he chose joy?

For everybody, so in case they wanna watch it later. So if you want to see what kind of courage and presence looks like, you can check that out later.

So when we talk about death today, this isn't a theory to me.

This is a personal one, and this is now. So most people are scared of death. Especially in the Asian and American culture.

There's a lot of superstition, ghost stories, karma stories, quiet fear of, "Did I do life right?

Am I going to get punished after?" See, some people think death is the end, lights out, and nothing. And some people think there's something on the other side.

But they're scared because they don't know what it is. See, our bodies and our mind want certainty, and death is the one place where there is no clear map.

So most people, they just avoid it. Don't say the word. Don't talk about it.

The funny part is Death is the only thing that's guaranteed in life. It's the only thing that's certain. Every human, every animal, every plant will die.

Everything else besides death is a maybe.

See, death is the one for sure thing. And here's what I didn't really get until I had the shock of my life, my near-death brain aneurysm. I remember walking out of the hospital thinking I might only have 10 days left. And the wild thing is I wasn't thinking about my own death. My brain instantly went into protection checklist mode. Will my wife be okay? Will my kids be okay?

If I die?

Where are the life insurance papers? Do they even know which banks we bank at? Who would run the companies if I'm gone? See, that's what was running through my head, and I was walking around with this ticking time clock in my head, and all I could think was, did I leave them a map, or did I leave them a mess? I didn't tell him until after I survived, almost 2 months later, and I definitely didn't tell him how bad it was. I didn't tell anyone else, including my parents or any friends, because I figured, "What can they do anyway?

It'll only worry them." I wasn't worried about me disappearing. I was stuck in my identity. The father, the good husband, the good son, the guy who lost it all and rebuilt, the provider who has to make sure everyone is okay.

See, my nightmare wasn't I die. My nightmare was without me, how do they move forward and survive? See, my mind went straight into this weird mix of I don't know, maybe denial and determina— or determination.

It was just a little crazy, a lot of survival. See, that was the moment death stopped being an idea and started feeling very real.

And that's when I started asking different questions. If this body really can go at any time, then what am I Actually, what am I supposed to do with the days I have left? After that brain bleed, I went looking for answers anywhere I could.

See, that night I came across a Sadhguru video where he talks about death in a way I had never heard before.

I'm gonna play that clip for you right now, and as you watch it, don't worry about understanding every word.

Just notice your body. Notice what happens in your chest. Notice what happens in your stomach, what happens in your throat or your jaw.

See, when we say things like— or when he says things like death is a fiction of unaware, the unaware, and that this is only, or there is only life, life and life moving from one dimension to another.

Notice if your body relaxes, if it tightens, or kind of doesn't know what to do.

You don't have to agree or disagree.

Just let your words wash over you and pay attention to how your system responds. All right, let's roll the video. Here we go.

Death is a fiction of the unaware. There is only life, life and life alone, moving from one dimension to another. In human understanding, Largely, we understand only individual life as life. It's like taking a drop out of an ocean and thinking a drop is an independent entity. Yes, it is, but when it falls back into the ocean, you can't find the drop there. Similarly, life or individuality individual life, that it pops up and goes back. As I sit here in this forest, I see every tree here has an individual existence, but when it falls back, it becomes a part of the earth. Not just the tree, every life including us. So life is an enduring process. When your experience of life is limited to the boundaries of your individual nature, then there is life and death. If you understand the deeper process, if your experience of life transcends the limitations or the borders of individual existence, there is only life, life and life. Right now, you're enjoying your individual existence. That is perfectly fine, but knowing life beyond its individual existence is important so that we do not live constantly with the fear of death, because death means non-existence. It is not non-existence, is life moving from one dimension of existence to another. It is in knowing this that one can come to ease with the life that we have right now as individuals. It is in this that you transcend your limitations. It is in this that you know the bliss of your existence as life. As life without fear of mortality, as life without the fear of obliteration, is naturally blissful.

Namaskaram. Just take a breath for a second.

You don't have to turn what he said into a belief system.

You don't have to decide if he's right or wrong right now. Just notice what happened inside you.

Did something in you soften a bit?

Did something in you push back?

Did you feel both at the same time? If you're willing to put one word in the chat for how your body felt watching that—

calm, tight, confused, hope, Numb? Whatever it was, go ahead and type it in the chat.

See, for most of us, we were raised to think that death is a hard stop. Lights out, game over, nothing. What Sadhguru is pointing out is a different picture. Life is an ongoing ocean. And each of us as a temporary wave or drop that rises for a while then falls back in. From that point of view, death isn't disappearing, it's changing shape. And that raises a big question: if death is not the end of life, it's just the end of this particular form, then who are you in all of this? Because if you are just this body and only this mind, then yes, death is terrifying. But if you are awareness that's been watching this whole movie using this body and this mind like a vehicle, then the real, the real question becomes, how do you use this body and this mind with the time you have left. If that makes sense, type yes in the chat. If you're not sure, type in maybe.

Yes, yes, maybe.

Okay, so next we're going to go ahead and zoom in on the body as a vehicle.

The mind as a toolbox, and you as the one driving.

Let's make this more real.

Think about your body for a second.

The body started as two tiny cells, one from your mom, one from your dad. Everything else you ate, you took in food, you broke it down, and over time that food turned into bone, muscle, right, skin, your blood. So yeah, this body is yours, but it's also basically a fancy pile of recycled food. See, the same with your mind. Your mind is some— it's not some pure original thing. It's made from everything that you've seen, you've heard, you felt, been taught, and repeated a thousand times. Parents, teachers, classmates, TV shows, YouTube, TikToks, sermons, memes. All of that became your thoughts. See, this body, this body is mine, but it's not me. This mind, yeah, it's mine, but it's also not me. It's like buying a car. You own the car, you drive the car, you can scratch it, you can crash it.

Right?

You can upgrade it, but nobody confuses the car with who you are. Same with the video game character. When you pick a character on the screen, that's not you. That's the avatar you're using inside that game. If that makes sense, put in "car" or "game" in the chat. See, here's the big shift. If your body is just a vehicle, and your mind is a toolbox, then you are not the body and you are also not the mind.

You are the driver.

You are the player holding the controller. And if that's true, then when this body dies and this mind goes quiet, it's like the car just going back to the junkyard, or the gaming console just shutting off. See, the question isn't, how do I keep this car forever?

The real question is, while I have this car, this character, how do I want to drive?

What kind of game do I want to play with the time I've got? And that got me thinking about the video game idea. Now imagine holding a controller On the screen is your character. That character has a name, a certain look, a certain set of skills, a certain amount of health and power. See, but that character is not you. It's just who you're playing in this particular game. So when you start a new game, you don't know what you're doing. You just bump into the walls, right? You fall into holes, you die at level 2, and then you get back thrown back down to level 1. You might ask a friend, "Hey, how'd you beat this boss?" They show you the trick, you try it again, and after a while you get better. But now you get to like level 7 pretty easily until you die and bounce back to level 3. When that happens, you don't just throw down the controller and say, I'm a failure. My wife and kids will never love me, right? I can never win this stupid game. I should never play again. Nah, you don't do that. You might get annoyed for a second and then maybe swear at the screen, and then you hit the reset button. You understand? Something deep without saying it. You know, you say, I'm the player. I'm not that pixel on the screen. If that lands, put in "player" in the chat. Is this making sense? Yeah, it's a little confusing to me at first too. But now imagine this: your friend is stuck at level 2. He looks over at your screen and you're already, you know, you might have dropped from level 7 back to level 3. And he laughs at you even though he's never made it past level 2. Would you really care? Or would you think, "Dude, you've never even been to level 7." Here's the punchline: life works the same way. Everyone is staring at their own screen, fighting their own bosses, trying to figure out their own controls. So why are you living your real life like Their scoreboard matters more than how your game actually feels. See, we're all playing our own game. Inside that game, you basically have the 3 brains running the show.

Your gut brain is the survival brain.

It's a simple job: don't die. From a biological point of view, The purpose of life is to survive and replicate.

That's gut.

And then the heart brain is the meaning and connection. It cares about love, joy, music, art, laughter, the stuff that makes this game feel worth playing. And then you've got your head brain. Your head brain is the always planning, right? It's the story brain. It makes sense of what's happening, and it decides what move you're gonna make next. So your gut wants to say stay. Your gut just wants to stay alive in the game. Your heart, your heart wants the game to mean something. And then your head It's just trying to choose your next move. And then in between these two voices, some of you feel like you're at level 2, some at level 7, some at level 10, and get bored out of your mind. And even people who hit that level, that level 10 in money, in status, can find themselves stuck wondering Now what? That's right, I want to show you what it looks like when someone hits that level 10 in real life and still feels stuck. I'm gonna play a short clip from Alex Hormozi. If you don't know who he is, he's worth well over $100 million. I think it's closer to $300 million, uh, at the top of his game. In business and in fitness.

As you watch this, don't focus on the money part. Pay attention to what he says about how he feels once the magic wears off, and then notice what happens in your body when he talks about clients losing weight, getting off meds, and what happens by the 100th and 1000th success. Notice the moment when he says he doesn't know what else to do. This is the only thing I'm good at. See what—

or see where that lands in you.

Does it feel heavy, sad, scary, old, familiar? Just watch and notice your reaction. All right, let's roll Alex Hormozi video.

And then as soon as I got into the business of fitness, I realized that the vast majority of my day had nothing to do with fitness at all. And it was like billing and membership sales and all this other stuff. And when I started getting the testimonials coming in of these people who were going through our process, losing weight, getting off medications, whatever, maybe the first couple months it felt like something. But then on like the 100th and the 1,000th, I was like, well, yeah, of course you stopped, you moved better and you stopped eating shit and it worked out. Basically, the magic was gone for me. But I don't even feel in some ways that I am driven. I do this because I don't know what else to do. It's like this is the only thing I'm good at.

Isn't that crazy what that looks like at level 10?

Crazy, huh? You wouldn't think that you'd feel that way.

But you build the business, you get the clients, you rack up the testimonials. People lose weight, get off medication, their lives really do get better. At first it feels magical and then you get fired up, you're proud, you're like, "Wow, this is it!" Then like Hormozy said, on the 100th and then the 1000th, it looks like, "Well yeah, of course it worked." You move better, you stop eating junk food, you trained. And then what do you expect?

See that magic? It slowly fades. And then he said something a lot of people at the top secretly feel: I don't even feel that driven anymore. I do this because I just don't know what else to do.

See, it's the only thing I'm good at. See, level 10, maxed out the characters, the best gear, top of the scoreboard, and you still feel stuck, bored, maybe even a little confused.

Trapped inside the game.

If you hit anything, or if that hit anything in you, drop the word in the chat: ouch, true story, scary, familiar, whatever. Have you seen this, or anyone around you?

I have.

I got a call the other day with exactly this.

And we talked about how he's on an island with a couple of yachts around, and he couldn't figure out, you know, this was his dream, right?

And he's just sitting there on the island looking out, feeling depressed because he thought about it.

He was like, "Man, is this it?" See, that's what it looks like when your gut brain has everything it wants—

safety, money, success— but your heart and your head are still asking, okay, what is this actually for? Here's why we're looking at this.

If the purpose of life were to survive and win, get money, get the body, get the status, then level 10 should feel amazing forever. But it doesn't because your gut brain cares about survival and success, but your heart and your head care about something else, and that's meaning. How it feels to actually live, how it feels to love, how it feels to be you inside this short window of time. So if death is guaranteed and winning the game doesn't automatically make you feel alive, then the question becomes, if the purpose of life as designed in nature is to survive and replicate, all animals, plants are the same. What separates us as humans is that we get to choose our meaning of life. And so what is this game of life actually for? What is it actually for? For you. Think about that for a minute. What is it actually for?

Put it in the chat if it resonates.

So if you don't know, it's okay. And that's where my dad's story made it painfully clear.

See, when my dad died last year, the whole game idea got very real. I spent 23 days by his side almost every day at the hospital. We said what we needed to say. We listened to his stories.

He talked about trips around the world he took with Mom and her friends.

All these memories, all these scenes from his life, some of that strange humor he had, that Asian dad humor, that negative humor actually, came out.

And at the same time, he was this very classic old-school survival guy, right?

Saved every penny, stacked it, protected it, stressed about it.

He played a hard survival game with his whole life, and then one day his game ended.

He couldn't take a single thing with him. Not the money, not the status, not the points he earned, nothing.

All the tokens stayed here. It hit me. We grind so hard for things we cannot carry past that final screen. What actually remains is the experience of the game and how it felt to be around you, how your kids felt in your presence, how your friends felt, how your partner felt, how you felt walking in this skin. So the last time I saw my dad alive, he'd been in the hospital already for 23 days.

I stood next to his bed and I said, "Dad, I promise I'll get you home in the next few days, and I'll be back to the house next week, okay? I've got this thing in Las Vegas." that I have to take care of, so I'll be back next week. Buddy, my dog, you know, he put his paw up on the side of the bed, and he looked— Dad looked at Buddy and said, "I love you, Buddy." And in my head I'm thinking, "What about me?" You know, but out loud I said, "Buddy loves you too, Dad." That's the Asian way we show love. It's kind of sideways. Through the dog. Through service. Through what we do, not what we say. And that was it. That was the last time I saw him conscious. Once you've had a moment like that, you can't unknow Every hello and every goodbye might actually be that last one. There's a part of you that wants to pretend you have endless time, and then there's a part of you that knows you don't. I want you to hear about the moment. In his own way. A week later, Dad passed peacefully at home. You know, I miss him.

And that night, I missed him by 15 minutes.

But it's okay. So in this next clip, Will Smith tells the story of sitting with his father after doctors said he had weeks to live. And as you watch, just notice who comes to mind for you when he talks about his dad. And what would it mean if you treated the hello and the next goodbye with the same level of intention. All right, let's roll the video. Hold on.

I sat down with my father. The doctors told us he had 6 weeks to live. We talked about everything. So I said everything that I wanted to say, and we got to those 6 weeks. We were clear. But then he lived for another 3 months. So what happened was every time I saw him was like, oh, thank God. And then every time we said goodbye, we made sure we said a good, thorough, full goodbye because we knew at any moment that could— it could actually be the last goodbye. But the lesson was, it's always like that. You should never greet someone casually or say goodbye to someone casually. And that lesson came from that experience. Every moment was so rich. Every time we saw each other, and every time we said goodbye, we made sure it was a good, thorough, full goodbye. But that's how you're supposed to live every day anyway.

All right, watching Will with his dad, you hear them treat every visit like it could be the last one.

Every goodbye is full because they know any one might be final. My story went differently.

After my dad died and after my own close call with death, I realized I don't want to spend the rest of my time just stacking tokens for a game I can't take with me.

I want to actually experience my life, and after years alone and divorced, I don't want to do it alone anymore. So I started dating again, not to run from loneliness or pain, but because life is short and I wanted to share my journey in joy so that every hello, every goodbye, every day actually matters.

See, my daughters saw that through a different lens.

Their identity as loving daughters meant if I keep loving Dad after he's dating someone other than Mom, I'm betraying Mom.

So they pulled away from me to stay loyal to her. See, I didn't know that to honor their choice, I had to grieve I had to grieve them like death.

To say goodbye to my own daughters I spent 20 years raising, loving, supporting, playing with, as if they died even though they're still alive.

That's the level we're playing at here, guys.

So you've just heard my story, you've heard Will's story about his father.

I want you also to hear from someone who sees this every single day. In the next clip, you're going to hear a doctor who spends his life around people at their deathbeds.

As you watch, listen for the part where he talks about happiness as a choice and about what you feed your attention every day.

All right, let's roll. Hold on.

We never truly value a moment until it becomes a memory. Honestly, I see this in the hospital all the time. There is nobody on their deathbed that wishes they worked harder or more. Nobody. And the biggest realization that people make on their deathbed is that happiness is a choice. And that doesn't mean pretending to be happy or denying pain. It is all about recognizing that you cannot always control their circumstances, but you can control your response and your interpretation. Every day you either feed peace and gratitude or you feed resentment and fear. And over time, these choices, they compound. And for many, that realization unfortunately doesn't come until very late in life. So don't let that be you.

All right. So, how did that feel?

Okay, so he just said: "Nobody on their deathbed wishes they worked more. The big realization is that happiness is a choice, not pretending, but choosing how you respond and what you feed every day." Every day you're either feeding peace and gratitude or you're feeding resentment and fear. And those choices compound over a lifetime. That's exactly what this whole game is about. Not control over sub—

uh, circumstances, but awareness of who I am being with this time that I have.

What am I feeding? What is the next right thing from here? So let's take a breath before we go on because I know this is really heavy. Take a breath with me.

Inhale. Exhale. All right, I'll show you the tools, the reset that helped me crack this in my own life.

So as we go into this reset, let this question sit in you: if every day, every hello, every goodbye really mattered, which part of you, or which part of who you think you have to be, would have to die? Which mask would would you have to take off so you can actually live your life with the time you have left?

Think about that. Thankfully, even with all of that, I've never felt more at peace and aligned in my own life than I have now.

I'm so grateful I finally found the right tools and techniques that crack the code to feel present in the moment, to feel this kind of joy and bliss and feeling it from the inside out. And that's why these resets and these programs exist so you can feel this joy, this bliss, what it feels like inside too. Come on, man, live your life. Live with passion, live with love. Love for you, love for your fellow humans, love for art, for music, for the wild, precious life, the awesomeness that the spirit moving through you. I want everyone to experience how this feels. I wanna reach through the camera and just shake you, shake the shit out of you and say, wake up, wake the fuck up. Wake up to your life like every moment is there and important. Live every moment. Don't waste your life. Don't waste that energy. Don't waste the time we have here. FOMO the fuck out.

Sorry, sorry, sorry, sorry. I got carried away here. Give me a second to regroup. I know, I know. Sorry, still feeling a little too passionate here. All right, so what we've talked about is the mind and your body are tools, not your entire identity. The game of life levels, you know, falling back again, starting over again.

Hormozy at level 10 and still feeling stuck. My dad dying and not being able to take it with him. You know, now let's connect that to you. Remember the 3 brains, right? You got your gut brain for survival, is wired for the purpose of life nature gave you. It's to survive and replicate, stay alive, pass on your genes. And that's the same for plants, animals, humans. And then you have your heart and your head brains.

Which tied in the meaning of your life.

It allows you—

you get to decide.

The heart cares about love, joy, music, laughter, feeling like life actually matters to you. And your care— your head, it cares about the story. Who am I? What do I stand for? How did I treat people? What did I do with my time?

So here's the question I want you to sit with. If your endgame a few years from now, and the people you love were standing around you at the— at your funeral, What do you hope they'd be able to say about you? How it felt to be around you. Not your resume, not your net worth, not your follower account. How it felt to be your kid, your partner, your friend, your coworker. If something comes to mind, Put a word or phrase in the chat if you want. Safe, seen, loved, challenged in a good way. Maybe you just made their life feel lighter. See, here's the good news and the hard news. You don't have to fix your whole life today.

You don't have to rewrite every level. You don't.

You, you, you just have to sense the next right thing for the days you have left.

The next right things for your gut, what keeps you alive and grounded. The next right thing for your heart, what makes your life feel meaningful.

The next right thing for your head, the step that actually makes sense given the time is limited. In the reset we're about to do, we're going to let your three brains talk to each other and simply let one clear, simple next right thing rise to the surface.

So before we dropped into the 7-minute reset, let's give your body a quick reset too. I know this is a heavy topic. We're gonna take 3 minutes, stand up, stretch, shake it out, grab some water, use the bathroom, shake out your legs, let your body move a little. While you're doing that, I'm gonna give you or your system one simple question to walk around with.

Here it is: If my life ended in a few years from now and the people I love were giving my eulogy, what do I hope they'd say about how it felt to be around me?

This is not about judging your life or beating yourself up, okay?

It's what you'd like them to say about you. Not what you achieved, not what you owned. How it felt to be with you. Did they feel safe with you? Seen by you? Loved? Challenged in a good way? More at peace because you were in their life? Let that question just float in the back of your mind while you get your water, while you pee, while you walk around the room. You don't need a perfect answer, just notice what starts to bubble up.

We'll come back together in 3 minutes. As you grab your water, we're about to do a short Guided Reset together. 3 minutes, I'm starting the timer now.

5 seconds of fear, then choose love or truth. Every heartbeat counts, every moment new. What would they say about me when I'm gone? Am I living now the way I want to be known? Grief is just love with nowhere to to go. But in between the yes and no, there's still time to change the flow. Don't waste another day. Live the life your eulogy deserves. Don't wait to be the person they'll remember in their words. I am not the body. I am not even the mind. I'm just Trying to leave something thin, beautiful behind. Something beautiful behind. Looking at photos from years ago, wondering where did that time flow. Every choice we make leaves a trace, drawing lines across time and space. What matters most at the end of days? Not the wealth, the fame we chased, but the love we gave away. Don't waste another day, live the life you're yearning to deserves. Don't wait to be the person they remember in their words. I am not the body, I am not even the mind. I'm just trying to leave something thin, beautiful behind. When they speak of me, what will their hearts say? Am I living true to who I wanna be today? Don't waste another day, live the life your Yuji deserves. Don't wait to be the person they're remembering there was.

Okay, welcome back everyone. Getting settled in? We're about to do a short guided reset together. It'll include a little bit of breathwork, some reflections on your life and death, and values exercise. This is not therapy and it's not about pushing past your limits. It's an invitation, and you are always in charge of your own destiny. If at any point something feels too much, you can always open your eyes, look around the room, feel your feet on the floor, or skip a piece. All of those are successful ways to take care of yourself here. We'll start with the gentle breathing. If you have any serious heart, lung, seizure, or mental health conditions, if you're pregnant, or if you just know intense breathwork isn't for you, please keep your natural breath or just sit this part out and listen. And anytime if you feel dizzy, panicky, or just off Go back to normal breathing or just open your eyes. You don't have to power through.

Just listen to your body.

That's all part of the work. So listening to your body is that part of the work. We'll also touch on your death and imagine what someone might say about you at your funeral.

This isn't about judging your life.

Or beating yourself up. It's a way to get clearer on what really matters to you so you can choose your next right thing now. So if at any point that feels too intense, you can stay with your breath, keep your eyes open, or just listen without going on all the way into the imagery. All of those count. Alright, the next few minutes you can just let this be just for you. You may want to sit comfortably, feet on the floor, hand rest loosely resting on your legs with your palms open, and when you're ready, you You can close your eyes or just soften your gaze, whatever feels safer to your body right now.

Nothing to get right, nothing to perform, just a chance to notice what's already here. For a short while, we'll use a simple breathing pattern to give your nervous system permission to reset. If at any point you feel lightheaded or uncomfortable, you can immediately return to normal breathing or open your eyes, because you are always in control. In a moment, you might take about 30 full breaths. Okay, breathing in fully through your nose, filling your belly, then your chest, and then just letting go without forcing the exhale. Like a wave coming in and sliding back out on its own. Let's begin. Breathe in now and fill the belly, fill the chest. And let go.

That's right.

Again, full breath in and just let it fall out. You may find a rhythm that feels good for you. In and let go. Each breath in can gently wake up your system. Each breath out can invite a little more letting go. In. Let go. You might notice tingling, warmth, coolness, or nothing in particular. Any of that is okay. And in a moment, you can continue silently at your own pace for a handful more breaths. And as you do, some part of you can begin to realize how easy it might be to shift state in just a few minutes. Now, wherever you are in your cycle, take one last fuller breath in and gently let it out.

Ah.

Then pause with your lungs soft and empty only as long as it feels safe and natural. And when your body wants air again, allow a comfortable breath in. Hold that breath for a slow count of 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, and exhale slowly.

Ahh.

Allowing your breath to return to an easy, natural rhythm. And notice how different you may feel already. As you continue to breathe gently, you might begin to notice the subtle feeling of air at your nose, cool as it comes in, slightly warmer as it goes out. Now let the breath carry a simple truth. On each inhale, you can think or whisper inside, "I am not the body." On each exhale, you can think, "I am not even the mind." mind. No need to force the words, just let them float through like thoughts that know where they're going. Inhale, I am not the body. Exhale, I am not even the mind. And as you repeat this Some deeper parts of you may begin to wonder, "What's it like to experience yourself as something more than a sensation and thoughts?" If your mind wanders, that's okay. Thoughts can drift past like clouds overhead. While attention returns to breathe and phrase. With each breath, you may find a small space opening between you and whatever your body feels, between you and whatever your mind says. Inhale, I am not the body. Exhale with, I am not even the mind. And as that space opens, it can become easier for your nervous system to learn something new about what safety feels like. We'll take 3 more breaths with the mantra now. Inhale, I am not the body. Exhale, I am not even the mind. Inhale, I am not the body. Exhale, I am not even the mind. Last one, inhale, I am not the body. Exhale, I am not even the mind. And now you can allow the phrases to fade into the background while the feeling of that truth stays with you. And from this quieter place it becomes possible to look at something most people avoid. Somewhere inside, you already know every day you are moving a little farther from your birth and a little closer to your death. As you let that in just enough Notice what happens low in your belly. Does your stomach tighten, clench, or go a bit numb? If so, that may be your gut brain, the survival brain, doing its job. Trying to protect you before you even think. You don't have to silence it, just notice it. Perhaps quietly say inside, thank you for trying to keep me safe. You can be here, and I am also something more. Then gently bring your hand or just your attention to your heart area. From this slightly softer place, you can begin to wonder, if my time really is limited, What actually matters to me in the days I have left? Not the answer your mind thinks you should give. The answer that feels true in your chest. You may notice images, memories, or just a word or two. Finally, let your awareness drift up to your head, your thinking brain. The planner. From here, gently ask: Given that I will die one day, what is the next right thing I could do in the near future that my gut, my heart, and my head could all eventually agree on. It doesn't need to be big, 'cause sometimes the smallest, most honest step carries the most power. What is the next right thing? And now, somewhere in the distance of your mind, you might imagine a scene many years from now. Your life has ended. The people who mattered most are gathered to speak about you. See one of them right now, standing to talk. Notice their face. The room, the feeling in the air. And let that part of you listen in to what you deeply wish they could truthfully say. Maybe it's, "I always felt safe with them." Or, "He helped me become more myself." Or, "He loved me fiercely and honestly." Whatever rises, let it be an honest desire, not a verdict. And as you listen, you may begin to realize that this version of you already exists as a possibility inside the awareness that is not your body and also not the mind. Now gently bring that future version back toward you as if you could sit in their posture. Breathe their breath. Borrow their sense of self for just a moment. And from that place, let one clear simple next right thing float up to the surface, something you could actually do in the next day or two. When that next right thing appears, You don't have to say it out loud, just quietly mark it as if your nervous system is saving it like a pattern it can return to. Imagine that next right thing that appears, and you're saving it. In a moment, a gentle count count from 1 up to 5 will help you bring this awareness all the way back into the room so you can return feeling more present, a little clearer, and already moving toward that next right thing. You can allow each number to bring you just a bit more alertness to your body while keeping the calm with you.

1.

Begin to notice your breath again, softly moving in and out. Up as your body remembers that it can relax and be awake at the same time. 2, feeling a little more energy begin to return to your hands and your feet. You might wiggle your fingers, your toes, just enough to remind your body that it is here. And 3, becoming more aware of the room around you, the sounds, the temperature, the way the chair supports you. And somewhere inside, that sentence, I am not the body, I am not even the mind, I am the one who chooses the next right thing. And 4, taking a slightly deeper breath in, letting the air fill your lungs and chest, and exhaling with the sense of something heavy may have already started to shift, even if you can't name And 5, when you're ready, you can let your eyes open, bringing all of this with you, with more presence, a little more in your body, and already quietly aligned with the next right thing you've chosen. Now take a moment And notice how you feel right now, not just in your head, but in your chest, in your stomach, and in your breath.

Welcome back.

How was that, everybody? How do you feel? Put it in the chat. You're ready for life, feeling happy, relaxed.

Love it.

Love it.

Great. So, before we close tonight, I wanted you to watch this last clip to bring it home. It's a video of Sadhguru with some really important message. Hang on, let me play this.

You have a body, you have a mind, you have emotions, you have your energies. All these four must be pleasant. Body becomes pleasant— we call it health. Body becomes very pleasant— we call it pleasure. Mind becomes pleasant— we call it peace. Becomes very pleasant— we call it joy. Emotions become pleasant— we call it love. Becomes very pleasant— we call it compassion. Energies become pleasant— we call it bliss. Becomes very pleasant, we call it ecstasy. Surroundings become pleasant. What should I call it, success or Isha Yoga Center?

See, all of that is part of your character in the game, but you are the one who notices all of it changing.

That's why we've been saying, This is—

this body is yours, but it's not you. This mind is yours, but it's not you. You are the awareness, and you get to use this body and this mind for a short period of time. And if that's true, then the real question becomes, how do you want to play this game with what time you have?

Are you gonna play with passion, joy, ecstasy, bliss, or are you gonna play it the same? Go ahead and put it in the chat. Either passion, joy, ecstasy, bliss, or the same.

Put in the chat.

And then let's take one more slow breath in and out.

And notice how you feel right now.

We started today with death, a topic most people avoid.

We looked at how our gut brain is wired for survival and replication, nature's basic purpose, on how our heart and head are the parts that get to choose the meaning of life.

We saw that you are not just this body, you are not just this mind, you are an awareness using both of these in this short time, in this game, in this vehicle, driving, looking out the window, experiencing life. We talked about the level 10 success that still feels empty. We watched my dad leave all his tokens behind. We heard Will Smith realize that every goodbye with his father needed to be full and real, and that it's always been that way. That's our purpose.

We should be doing it that way.

We asked, "What do I want people to say in my eulogy about how it felt to be around me?" And we aligned all three brains your heart, your head, your gut asking for the next right thing for the days we have left. You don't have to remember everything tonight. You don't have to fix everything tonight either.

If all you leave with is one clear, gentle next right thing, that is enough.

Most of us here are closer to death than the birth.

Every day is one day farther from where we started and one day closer to this end. That's not a curse, it's a clock.

And a clock can either make you panic or can help you prioritize.

You don't get to choose the purpose of life, that's survive and replicate. But you get to choose the meaning of your life, how you play your game, how you treat people, what kind of human you are while you're here. So thank you for being willing to look at this instead of running from it.

See, we're building a free community called The Reset Room.

It's new. You're the early crew. You're literally helping shape what this can become.

It's a space for high-functioning, secretly struggling humans to come together. We're together to regulate the nervous system and reset their stories with support. So if you're not in there yet, go join the Reset Room. Shane, please put the link in the chat and, uh, please join today. Then, uh, invite one person.

You probably No one person who's quietly drowning, going through a divorce, losing a parent, stuck in their own head. Most people never invite their friends because of something like this, because they're afraid, or they don't invite their friends to something like this because they're afraid they'll, they'll think, they'll think I'm judging them. Right?

They don't invite people because they think they won't come, or who am I to share this, or I'm still a mess, right? That's just your 5-second reflex trying to protect you from the awkwardness.

But one slightly awkward invite is nothing compared to watching someone you love keep suffering alone.

So here's my ask: invite one person to the next 7 Minute Reset.

Or into the reset room.

And remember, starting next Saturday will only be 15 minutes, not these hour-long sessions.

And you'll get only the 1-hour-long sessions once a month. You don't have to sell it, just say, hey, this helped me, come sit with me in the room.

For deeper work, for those of you thinking, I don't want this to be just a nice moment, I'm ready for my life to actually change. There's a 777 Recalibration Program. It's 7 weeks long. It's virtual masterclass working on 7 core areas of your life.

It's identity and emotional baselines, your nervous system patterns, love and attachment, family boundaries, work and money stability. Body and energy regulation. Purpose and direction.

So when your nervous system is overwhelmed, your mind cannot think clearly.

These are Andy Van Man videos, one area of your life per week, with workbooks and quizzes and guided meditation like the one you felt here, but more in depth. You can do it on your own time. The 777 is about restoring your baseline so your gut, your heart, and your head can finally work together and your next right thing becomes natural instead of being forced. It's like doing a complete master reset to your phone and being really choosy on what apps and contacts you install back in.

No pressure at all.

If you want details, DM Shane and he'll walk you through it, or you can text me later.

You know, just wanted to let you guys know that it's available.

And most of us here are closer to death than life now. Every day we are a day further from our birth and a day closer to death. How do you want to live your life? So I put these tools together because I wish I had somebody who put these—

it would have had this put together for me so I wouldn't have to go through the pain and learn it in the way I did. See, this next part is private for people who can stick around.

Hang on for a minute, let me shut off the live stream recording real quick and then we'll continue.

Hang on, hang on there for just one second, okay?