Repetition makes false rules feel true. Messages like "don't show weakness" or "work harder" get programmed into us as children and feel factual, even when they no longer serve us. Question the rules you never chose.
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Here's why the rules you grew up with feel like the truth. Not because they are, because of repetition. There's something called the illusory truth effect. When you hear or experience something enough times, your gut brain files it as fact. Doesn't matter if it's accurate. It doesn't matter if it still applies. Doesn't matter if you ever applied to you. If you ever heard, "Don't show weakness," enough times, your body starts responding to vulnerability like it's a threat. If you've heard, "Working harder," Enough times, your body starts treating rest like failure. If you've heard, "Don't make a big deal out of this," enough times, your body starts treating your own feelings like an inconvenience. That's not personality, folks. That's a program. And here's the thing about programs. They were written for a world that may not exist anymore, a world your parents lived in, or their parents, or a version of you that is 30 years younger than who you are right now. Send this To the person you know stuck in a rule they didn't write.