Practice new emotional responses alone in your car by replaying a recent spiral, placing your hand on your chest, and exhaling with a sound. Seven repetitions form a habit; seventy solidify a reflex.
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like a complete weirdo, and it works. Here's the unsexy truth about changing your reflex: you have to practice it when the stakes are zero. Not when your partner is standing in front of you. Not when your kid is screaming. Not when your trigger is already happening. You practice in the car. By yourself. Out loud. You replay the last time you spiraled. You feel the edge of it. Your hand to the chest. One exhale. Haaaa. Body signal, not a verdict. Out loud, like a weirdo. Your gut brain doesn't know it's pretend. It just knows you've practiced the new pattern. 7 reps builds a habit. 70 builds a reflex. Comment "reset." We do this live every Saturday together, free.