Jerry LinHuman Systems Engineer, 5 Second Reflex · Make lasting change for the life you actually want

Redefining Masculinity #rebuilddad #Masculinity #life #men #cancer #shorts

5 Nov 2025 · 1 min

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A man reckons with what masculinity means after cancer forced him to stop performing strength. He argues that tying a man's worth to emotional stoicism, relentless strength, or income is inhumane. Men need to feel and be vulnerable to be fully human.

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I had to reshape my idea of what a man is. They talk about toxic masculinity and, you know, there's different flavors of that, but this aspect of it where men have to be strong, men can't show emotion, the man is only loved because he can provide— those toxic ideals I had to reshape. And it's like, a man can show emotion, a man can show vulnerability, a man, just because, you know, he's not making a million dollars a year, doesn't mean his family should love him less. It's all these ideas that I grown up with, like, I gotta do this, I gotta do that, because that's what a man is, right? And now it's just like, no, that's not— I mean, like, we're, we're human at the end of the day, and, you know, we have needs, whether they're emotional needs or whatever. We can be human. And, you know, the previous idea of what a man is just wasn't really human.

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