Why you're always anxious (REPLAY) - Saturday Reset with Jerry S Lin

Morning. All right, let's go. Welcome to the Saturday Reset. I'm Jerry S. Lin, the architect of choice, and every Saturday morning we do one thing: we reset. Not because your week was bad, not because you're broken, but because the thing that runs your life runs on autopilot, and autopilot doesn't reset itself. This morning is about something that happens every night to almost everyone in this room, and nobody really talks about it. See, before we go anywhere, just notice for a second, where are you holding something right now? Is it in your jaw, your shoulders, your chest, your stomach? Somewhere? Just let it be true. Here's what we know. Every day you make roughly 35,000 decisions. Most of them happen before you even know there was a choice. I call that the 5-second reflex. That's the tiny window where your body decides before your conscious mind gets a vote. And it can do that because you're running 3 brains, not 1. You got your head brain, which covers logic, language, the part of ya, ya think as you. And then you have your heart brain, connection, belonging, love, trying to be part of the community. And then you have your gut brain. Your gut brain's down here. It's for survival patterns, detection. It's all your autopilot. See, your gut brain processes roughly a billion bits of sensory data every second. Your head brain It only handles about 10. Yes, only 10. That's 100 million times more that your gut processes than your conscious mind, the brain that we think controls everything, is able to process. That's why we're able to stand up straight with the globe or the Earth that's spinning at thousands of miles per hour, right? So the gut brain is running the show in real time before your head brain even loads the situation. See, here's what I want to prove to you this morning: your gut brain has already decided something about this session. See, your head brain doesn't know it yet, We're gonna prove that to you in about 5 minutes, so just stay with me there for a second. So you want to know why you're exhausted even when nothing bad happened today? You want to know why you woke up this morning already behind and feeling anxious? You want to know why your brain won't just let you rest. You wanna know why you're tired of being tired? Let me tell you what's happening. So it's 11 PM, you're in bed, the lights are out. Your head hits the pillow. Nothing is wrong. There's no crisis, no emergency, nothing to solve. You're just laying there and then it starts. That meeting this morning, did that land right? What did they mean by that look? Hmm. That text I sent, should I have phrased it differently? Why haven't they replied yet? Did I say too much? Did I say not enough? And then the next thought, and the next one, and then the one after that. So you do the logical thing. You grab your phone because if you write it down, you won't forget it, right? And maybe then your brain will finally let you rest. So then you grab your phone. I don't know where my phone is. Where my phone is. Anyway, grab your phone, you open Notes app, you type the thing you wanted to type, and then, well, the phone's already in your hand, you just start checking one other thing, and that one thing has a notification, so it goes bling, and then which leads to another thing, which then leads to a TikTok video, YouTube video, which leads to a comment section. Which leads to an opinion you didn't ask for about something you weren't even thinking about. And now it's running 1 AM and the original thing you were worried about has 3 friends now. You went into your phone to put in some notes and you came out 90 minutes later having watched a documentary about deep sea creatures and how somehow feeling worse about your relationship. So we've all been there. And at some point around 2 AM, you put your phone down and then the anxiety is worrying about a future that hasn't even happened yet. Things we just imagine. And most likely won't even happen. 'Cause that's what anxiety is. Let that sink in. Anxiety is worrying about the future that hasn't even happened yet, that you've imagined in your head, and most likely won't even happen. And we use our phone as the distraction. And it doesn't work because the unfinished thing in the back of your head runs as a background app that's always spinning back there. To you, you gotta get it taken care of and get it done and checked off, otherwise it'll just keep spinning back there. And then you say to yourself, I have to sleep. And you close your eyes and your body starts to review it again. For nothing that is happening right now. In the dark at 2 AM now. See, your body had scheduled a performance review at 11 PM. And nobody asked it to. So now your pillow is the trigger. And you hit that— and you hit the pillow enough times while your brain's running the debrief that your gut brain, it logs it. So laying down horizontal plus the dark plus quiet equals it's review time. Not a thought you had, a pattern that your body has now automated. See, I'm gonna come back to that in a few minutes, but first I need to show you something about your gut brain live right now. All right, so I need everyone in the chat for this. All right, this is not a spectator moment. I want you to do one thing. Think about Your to-do list for tomorrow. All right, think about the to-do list, or it could be for today. Your to-do list, everything you gotta do after you finish this call. Don't look at it, don't open it, don't start reading it in your head. Just think it exists. Okay, now type what your body just did. Not what you thought, what your body did. One word. 3, 2, 1, go ahead. Write it down. What happened to my camera? Why did the camera go dead? Give me a second, guys. Did the camera go dead? The feed went dead. Okay, hold on. How about now? Are we back? All right, nothing. Let's see, we got nothing. We've got— I don't have a list for this weekend. You're so lucky, Carl. And Andy got nothing too. Wow, so many nothing. Uh, George says his heart accelerate and— or tight or overwhelmed. Oh, I got— want you guys' life. You guys got no to-do lists. That's awesome. Uh, anyhow, very good. All right, you get a weekend, Carl? Really, Shane, do you get a weekend? We got no weekends. All right, very good. All right, the reason why I said that is See, you didn't read a single item, and I didn't tell you what was on it. Nothing was added. Nothing was removed. That list is exactly the same as it was 10 seconds ago. I just pointed at it. And your body voted. That is your gut brain. It has been running that list all day in your background. See, while you were in meetings, while you were with your family, while you were doing everything else, it had the file open. I just pointed at the tab. Just running the background. It's just running in the background. Someone typed nothing. Either you have the most peaceful relationship with your to-do list of anyone I've ever met, or your gut brain has learned to hide it so well you can't feel it anymore. Both of those are worth paying attention to. And here's why this matters. Tonight at 11 PM, when you hit that pillow, your gut brain doesn't open a new file. It runs the new one it had opened all day, only louder because now everything else is quiet. And the list is still there. The pillow became the trigger. The same way the to-do list for tomorrow fired your body before you read a single item. See, your body learned horizontal, dark, quiet equals review time. Not because you decided that, but because you did it enough times that your gut brain automated it. See, practice makes permanent, even when you didn't know you were practicing. Here's what I want to show you now before I explain anymore. I want you to feel what it's like when it stops. So close your eyes. If you're comfortable, or soft focus. Just take the visual noise down just a little and take one breath in and let it go all the way out. Not a performed breath. Just let it leave. Now I want you to ask your body something. Not your mind, your body. Remember where you found something earlier when I asked you at the beginning? Go there. Now notice your jaw right now. Is it set, holding something? See if that place can be 10% softer. Not gone, not forced, just 10% less gripped. Let your shoulders drop half an inch, just half an inch, and notice how heavy they actually are when you stop holding them. Place one hand on your chest if you'd like. Feel it rise and fall. See if the tightness can loosen just 10%. Not gone, just less. Your stomach, whatever it's holding, scanning for, bracing against, see if it can rest just for this moment, just while you're here. Your hands, uncurl them if they're curled and let your fingers be easy. And one more breath in through the nose and long out. Ah. Let your body be 10% heavier than it was a minute ago. I want you to imagine something. Your body has been holding on to an invisible clipboard. Every night when you hit the pillow, it picks up that clipboard and starts running the review. It's been doing this for a long time. Not because it's wrong, because it learned that's the job. In this moment, I want you to imagine your body setting the clipboard down. Not throwing it away, not deciding it doesn't matter, just setting it down. The review can Wait, this moment doesn't need it. Put your right hand on your chest. Feel your own heartbeat. This right here is what the clipboard down feels like. File this. Here's what just happened in your body. Your gut brain doesn't decide to run the nightly review. Repetition did. You hit the pillow enough of times while your brain was running the checklist and your gut brain filed it. This position, this darkness, this quiet, this is when we review. It became the trigger the same way to-do list for tomorrow's became the trigger before you opened a single item. The same way certain names on your phone become triggers. Your body was doing its job. It was trying to help you. It just never got a new job description. What you felt just now, the clipboard down, that is the new job description. One rep. That's what you gave your body just now, and what you practice becomes permanent. I want to ask you two things, and I want you to let the answer live in your body, not just in your head. What would you do with the time and energy if your body stopped running The debrief. What if the body that learned to run the review is the same body that can learn to put it down? Who are you now? Not what did you learn. You are not an anxious person. You are a person whose body learned a very thorough bedtime habit. That is a completely different sentence. One of them is a life sentence. The other is just reps. Now put your right hand on your chest Feel your own heartbeat. This right here is what the clipboard down feels like. File this. And now take one big breath in. And let it all the way out. Haaaa. Clap. That's it. That's the new program locked. Every time you hear the clap from now on, your gut brain knows what it means. You just gave it a new job description. One rep. That's what that was. And what you practice becomes permanent. Now I'm gonna bring you back with each number. Come a little more present. 5, becoming aware of the room around you, the sounds coming back in. 4, feeling the weight of your body where you're sitting, where you're planted. And 3, wiggle your fingers and take one easy breath. 2, almost back. Bring a small smile if you have one. And 1, eyes open. Welcome back. One word in the chat: how does your body feel right now? Not your mind, your body. Calm. Lighter, warm, tingly grounded, emotional. That is the new program settling in. That clipboard you set down a few minutes ago, it's still there. It didn't disappear, but your body just learned for the first time that it doesn't have to pick it up the moment your head hits that pillow. That's the new reflex. One rep. That's what you just ran. And here's your homework for this week. Remember those 3 alarms we set? It's already in your phone. If it's not there, go ahead and set it now. Alarm 1 was the morning. Name it Reflex and put in there a note. What am I choosing today? 'What am I choosing today?' And when it fires, put your hand on your chest, 5 seconds, and answer that question. 'What am I choosing today?' Then alarm 2, which is in the around noon or midday, the name is also Reflex, but now put in the question, 'What is my body holding?' right now. What is my body holding right now? And when that alarm fires, locate it, name it what your body is holding right now. Don't fix it, you just gotta name it. All right, and alarm number 3, when it fires off at night, name that one reflex as well and name it clipboard down. Alright, so this one's at night. So when it fires, put your right hand to your chest, one breath all the way out, hah, and that's it. See, what'll happen is when you put that clipboard down, it won't keep bothering you when your head hits that pillow. You're not doing this perfectly. You're doing it repeatedly. That's the only thing that rewires. And before we go, we do this every week together. Hand on the chest. If you're with me, go ahead, put your hand on your chest. Repeat after me, all right, out loud. Repeat after me. We wake up, right? We wake up, we choose, and we bring everyone we love with us. That last one is, and we bring everyone we love with us. See, that's the pledge. That's who we are in this for. This Reset Room, free every Saturday, this is your weekly rep. And for people who are done waiting, who want to smash 20, 30 years of borrowed autopilot in one room, Destroy limiting beliefs that have been feeding your anxiety daily. That's Master My Reflex Breakthrough. Here's a quick video how Breakthrough helped Henry in the last cohort. He was able to reduce his anxiety and his blood pressure significantly. Hold on and watch this video. Come on, man, I spent 4 and a half hours with you guys. I need one power move. Powwow! Powwow!

I just recently reflex training with Jerry Lin. Running my business for over 10 years— The last few years I found myself just filled with anxiety every night. Blood pressure has been through the roof. I've done a lot of personal development. Meditation. However, I always find myself not in control with my reactions. After the training, waking up so much more relaxed. My blood pressure literally dropped by 20 points the last couple of days. I feel committed to it and I'm getting results, and I'm grateful for the opportunity. I recommend anybody that want to help themselves with all the situations that the world throws at us, give it a shot. You're gonna really find it helpful.

Speaking of blood pressure, how's it now? Even lower. It's the lowest I ever measured in the last few years.

Dude, that's awesome, man.

119, which is, which is super low. Typically it's like 120, 45-ish, even taking meds.

What's your bottom number?

Like 85 or 80. This has helped for sure. Definitely hasn't hurt it.

Yeah. So have you noticed your attitude difference?

Yeah, I think I doing the reps as much as I can remember during the day, it has helped because there's so many situations that comes up with work.

Alright guys, so the next Breakthrough Session is coming up in 13 days. 5 hours of full immersion. And I'm looking for the next group or cohort for Thursday, April 23rd in the evening. To do the real work with real change. Breaking through your limiting beliefs. Watch your life change completely. And y'all know I normally charge $997 for the Breakthrough, but I'm gonna select 4 people on scholarship for this next session for free. So contact me after, contact Shane if you're interested, and we're gonna max the cohort out at 20 people. So I'm Jerry Lin, the Architect of Choice. Same time next Saturday. You were born alone, you'll leave alone. The in-between time, that's yours. So see you next Saturday. Hang tight real quick, uh, let me kill the streams for TikTok.