You've absorbed rules about work, strength, desire, and asking for help without ever choosing them. The speaker asks which ones you actually agree with versus which ones you're just carrying forward from watching adults and getting praised for certain behaviors.
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You're living by rules you never agreed to. Rules about what hard work looks like, what strength looks like, what you're allowed to want, what kind of person asks for help. You don't write those rules. You absorb them, watching the adults around you, listening to what got praised and what got ignored, noticing what was safe to say and what wasn't. Rep by rep, year by year, until those rules stopped feeling like rules and started feeling like just who you are. Here's the question nobody ever asked you: which ones do you actually agree with, and which ones are you just carrying because you've carried them for so long you forgot to put them down? Drop a yes in the comments if you're living by a rule right now that you didn't choose. Comment reset and I'll DM you the Saturday link.