#74: Seth Godin, Author and Marketing Strategist — showing up for yourself, creating conditions for your best work, and how to deal with massive rejection (Repost)

Well, hello. Today is a very exciting day because today I talk to the legendary Seth Godin. Seth Godin calls himself a teacher. He is also widely known as a marketing guru and he's the author of about 20 bestselling books including Purple Cow, this Is Marketing and the Practice. Seth has also written a daily blog for over a decade. You can find it at Seth's blog, that's S E T h S bl blog, and this is how he describes himself there. For more than 30 years, I've been trying to turn on lights, inspire people and teach them how to level up. Speaking from personal experience, I would just say that Seth is one of the most incredibly generous and encouraging people I've ever met. I trooped up the Hudson to his office in Hastings on Hudson in Westchester, New York. And we talked about the key insight in his very first job that shaped his entire career and how he dealt with massive rejection early in life. We also talked about his recent near death experience and how that affected him and why that was the catalyst for his new book, Song of Significance. And I loved our discussion about how Seth gets motivation when he's not feeling quite himself. You'll find that very enlightening. What can I tell you? This is a phenomenal episode, so let's get right into it. Please enjoy my conversation with the remarkable Seth Godin.

Seth, welcome to the show. I'm so excited to be here in your incredible home in Hastings on Hudson.

In real life, we're not, we're not in my home because I'm so messy.

That I can't do this at home. We're in an apartment nearby.

Okay, got, thanks for the clarification. We're an apartment near your home and it's amazing and it's a riot of color and pictures and just so many visual stimulation. So I wanted to start by asking you. You know, your career is full of generosity and teaching and making things that matter. You've written over 8,000 blog posts and you showed up again over, over and over again for decades. And you've become kind of a big deal. So I'm curious, you know, I'm just curious, was there a moment that you realized you were not just Seth Godin.

But the Seth Godin you know, I have been set go to my whole life. As long as I can remember, no one's ever called me anything but that. I won the parent lottery and I'm well aware of it. And both my parents modeled for me a behavior of generosity, community leadership. But it's very easy in the Day to day to get stuck in the noise in our head and to think that you know that the world has amnesia and has no idea who you are. Right.

Every time I've tried to fight that.

By wanting to say to somebody, don't you know, I have regretted it either by taking action on that and speaking up or by not taking action and acting like somebody should know who I am.

The fact is, my best selling book.

Was not read by 99% of the people in the United States to a rounding error. Nobody has read any of my books. To a rounding error. Almost no one has read my blog. Less than 1% of the Internet population has ever seen my blog.

And life is just so much easier. If my assumption is that I have.

To prove something to this new person today about what is possible as opposed to saying, well, I earned the right to be selfish today.

That's a beautiful way to think about it. What do you mean by life is easier?

Well, the. Everyone has a noise in their head. It's called Sandra. The moment you realize that that other people have fears and dreams and hopes the way you have fears and dreams and hopes, once you realize it, empathy becomes inevitable because suddenly your noise isn't the only noise. And that doesn't forgive the person who cuts you off in traffic or acts selfishly or is a bully or a bore. But it might explain part of what they're doing. And if you've chosen to be in this spot today, in this world, well, the people you chose to be with are playing with the noise in their head. So what are you going to do about it? You can insist and demand that they adopt your noise, or you could do something that's a lot more useful, which is acknowledge that they have a noise in their heads too.

So coming from that point of view is kind of just real. There's a connectedness to other humanity.

There's a connectedness. But I'm loathe to say that this.

Is all about being some sort of selfless, altruistic do Gooder. You pointed out that I've written 8,000 blog posts. I've never had an ad. I've never made a penny from my blog. And the reason is because early on I said to myself, either I'm going to please the affiliate manager or the advertiser or not. And if I please the audience, I'm in congruence with them and things are simpler and more likely to work. Whereas if I'm torn, sooner or later I'm going to offend one of the two parties. In a way I didn't anticipate. So I'll actually achieve my goals better if I'm very clear about why I'm here and who it's for.

That's so well said. Thank you for sharing that. You know, I wanted to, without going much further, I wanted to really talk about the experience you recently had, which you talked about in the Rich roll show, which was a near death experience. So glad you're alive. I think I speak for a lot of people when I say glad you're alive. Can you tell us about what happened?

Well, it's probably more interesting to me than most people.

Uh, I was swimming in the ocean off San Clemente very early in the morning. I swim most days. I'm a pretty good swimmer. But I'm also in my 60s and I don't have a lot of experience with the rip tide. And it became clear to me after a couple minutes that it was very unlikely I was ever going to be back on shore. I was moving faster than I have ever moved in a motorboat. It was astonishing. And I thought about all the people I would miss, my family and others. And then I thought about the fact that I had work left to do. And for whatever reason, I found that focus and the energy to get over that thing that was keeping me out there. And I made it back by the skin of my teeth. But that led to the new book, the Sign of Significance, because it came right out of me. I mean, it only took two weeks to write. It took 10 years to think about. But I realized we don't get many chances to sing our song, and we don't get many opportunities to open the door for other people. And sometimes it feels like we're going to live forever, but no one ever has. So let's get real.

When you got to shore. I definitely want to talk about your book. Definitely. And yet I'm wondering, when you got to shore, like, what was that moment like?

I think that it was probably driven by a variety of released brain chemicals. But it was mostly a realization that mortality comes with responsibility and that I was eager to not waste the moment I have.

That'S so useful for all of us to remember. Even though we don't have this near death experience every day, we're all busy dying. So how did that then lead to the song of significance was there? Like that day you're like, I'm going to write this book because it's inside of me.

I'm super lucky to have written a bunch of books. And before that, I was a book packager, and I did 120 books. But you gotta be insane to make a book now. They don't reach very many people and they take a very long time to bring to the world. Lots of people will say to an author, I love your book. I even finished it. No one says to a movie director, I love the movie. Can you believe I made it to the end?

I even finished it.

And so true.

So I only write a book as a last resort.

And what will happen is I will see things in the real world and decide that there's a blog post there or maybe a slide in a presentation.

But I will only decide something is.

A book if it will not let me go. And I think what happened when I got out of the water is it didn't take very long for me to say, this isn't a blog post, this is a book.

So let's talk about the book. I want to hear about it. And I want to hear what does it mean to be significant? And why is it a song?

Okay, so around in the fall of 2022, it was fascinating to watch a billionaire bully take over a company and publicly humiliate and fire the people who were loyal to that company. And also really weird to see people cheer him on. That's how deep the indoctrination of industrialism goes. That the doctrination indoctrination of industrialism is the people with the money make the rules, and somehow they got the money because they deserved it. And they deserve obedience and respect simply because they're walking in with this other currency.

And the. We invented all of that just recently, that kings always got that, but not.

Anybody but kings or maybe popes.

We invented it because industrialism paid so.

Many benefits to so many people.

Once you put a machine in place.

And that machine is productive, it makes a lot of money, and it makes a lot of stuff. That stuff gets cheaper. People get more stuff.

So the typical person today has more.

Power and stuff than the king of France did the last time there was a king of France.

So it was a pretty interesting deal. Change the public schools, Change the healthcare system. Change the way we spend our days, Change the way we spend our nights. Change entertainment, change culture, and you'll get all these toys.

But what is happening right now with AI, with outsourcing, with organizations shrinking in size and everything else is the industrialists are breaking their end of the bargain. And people are starting to notice. And so the reason it's called the Song of Significance is because I became obsessed with beehives bee colonies. And what I write about in the book is what Jacqueline Friedman calls the song of increase. And that is when a feral beehive will leap from where it was and take an extraordinary risk, risking the lives of every bee in the hive to get to the next thing, to become something it is capable of becoming. The song of increase is a miracle to see and to watch and to be part of. And as soon as they do it, they then form a tight ball and sing the song of safety, which is if their body temperature changes much above or below 98, they die. So they have to maintain this tight cohesion in order to stay at the right temperature.

But we're not peace. And what occurred to me is that.

What people really want is to be significant. And so I polled my blog readers, 90 countries, 10,000 people responded.

And I said, what's the best job.

You ever had and why? And I gave them all these choices. Like, you didn't have to work very.

Hard, you'd have to travel, you got paid a lot.

No one picked those. No one. It was. I worked with people who I respected. I accomplished more than I thought I could and I did something that mattered.

Well, then why isn't every day like that? Why do you want to give that up for toys?

So if you are lucky enough to have a roof over your head, lucky enough to have access to healthcare, why exactly are you waiting for someone to tell you what to do as they race to use a stopwatch and a computer to replace you?

Yeah, that's about the individuals and their choices. And I also think about kind of the systems that we create in the workplaces that create the system that where that unfortunately flourishes. Right, that people are not feeling significant, they're feeling, you know, ill used or burned out. That's what, you know, a lot of the burned out and the quiet quitting and all that resignation stuff. I think that maybe your point about industrialism, it's like it forces workplaces to be a certain way. So I worry that one person can make a choice about significance, but that the overall system is still dampening feelings of the ability to have significance.

Right. So I've been thinking about systems a lot.

I spent a year as a volunteer organizing the Carbon Almanac. So I worked, you know, 15 hours a day, seven days a week for a year to build this book with 300 other people in 40 countries. And we created a 97,000 word illustrated footnote, fact check charted, graphed typeset almanac, 300 pages long in less than five months. And didn't make a single mistake. And we handed it in ahead of schedule. Everyone was a volunteer and no one had ever made an almanac before except for me.

And how did that happen? Organized without an organizer, led without a manager.

Right. Well, the efficient markets are starting to pay attention to the fact that it is more productive, more efficient and more magical, given the power of the Internet and the ships in our world, to run a company the way Automatic is running, not to run a company the way I say Google is that Matt Mullenweg has 2,000 employees. They don't have an office and they don't have email. And he is the leader.

He created the conditions for magic to.

Happen, but he doesn't tell anybody what to do.

And so you are right.

Every system, whether it's the climate carbon system we live in or the company you work for, is a system. But systems always change. They just don't change that fast. And they don't change on demand, but they always change. And the question is, what forces will make them change? If you have skill and vision and you only go to work at places to treat you with respect, then the.

Marketplace for companies will become more clear.

And they'll realize they can't bribe their way into hiring skilled people who comply.

They'll have to treat you with respect.

So the system will change. We've seen the system change. It took too long, but in 60 years, as women have entered the workplace.

The system has changed. Not enough, but it's changed and long overdue.

Our conversations about social justice and caste is causing the system to change.

So my argument is not that this.

Book is going to change a system, but it could start a conversation. And that's why it needs to be a book.

Because if you hand three books to three people and say, let's talk about this on Monday, it's hard to do.

That with a blog post. It makes sense to do that with a book.

Yeah, right, that makes sense because then it's like it sort of has weight and form and that people really want to gather around it. And so I'm going to read the book. I can't wait for it to come out. And also, do you have sort of one or two specific pieces of advice for people who want to be significant right now? And I think even more importantly for managers who haven't been trained, by the way, that's another thing we haven't done. We haven't trained our managers. And the company runs on the backs of managers. And there's some good managers that care about their people and naturally do the things that caring about people looks like and then sadly not right because they haven't been trained or motivated or even like guided in that direction. So like, what advice do you have from managers who want to create something that can be like that system inside of their workplaces?

Yeah, it's a great question.

So first I need to highlight that.

Managers and leaders are not the same.

Some managers should just manage.

McDonald's needs managers. The fry machine has to have someone on it at 2:00'. Clock.

And some leaders are not managers. They don't have anyone reporting to them.

They just creating the conditions for growth.

And the second thing I need to.

Say is a beehive isn't soft. There's nothing soft about working inside a colony of bees. I'm not proposing softness. What I am proposing is dignity and respect, which are different.

So there's a story that's not in.

The book that I will tell you.

Ten or 15 years ago, I spoke.

At a fancy investment bank in New York City. Friend asked me to come in and talk to their 20 summer interns.

20 years ago, 15 years ago, to get a summer internship like that, you.

Need your fancy parents who could pull strings.

So there are 15 or 20 people.

Who are used to having strings pulled. And they were sitting there in their fancy blue suits, men and women, and they'd been there for six weeks, they had three weeks left. And I walk in and on my way in, there was a stack of index cards and I grabbed them and I handed out these 15 blue cards. And I said, okay, here's what I.

Want you to do.

Take a pencil.

Don't worry, I'm not going to put.

You on the spot socially.

Just take a pencil and answer the five question. As I was coming here, the phone.

Rang and it was Bill Gates or maybe Warren Buffett, somebody like that.

And they said to me, I got.

A huge amount of money for a project. It's an eight week sprint.

And the people who work on the.

Sprint are going to get paid $150,000 each. By the way, the person you're meeting with, they're going to run it, but.

They get to pick any three people.

To be on their team with them who get paid the same amount.

I said, so now you're on the spot. This is the thing that's going to make your career. And you got to write down the.

Names of three people around this table out of the other 15.

I said, so please go ahead and write down three names.

And that made people really Sure.

I said, don't worry, I'm not going to ask you to read them to me.

They wrote down three names.

I said, okay, question number one, how many do you think the same names.

Came up over and over again? Everyone agreed.

I said, question number two, how many.

Of you think your name came up over and over again? And a few people were honest enough to say yes.

And I said, so question three is, do you think you've only known each other for six weeks? Do you think those people showed up here six weeks ago acting in a way consistently that would make them the kind of person that's on this list? Which leads to the last question. Why aren't you that person? This has nothing to do with not working hard or taking personal data. This has to do with, did you offer other people dignity and connection and possibility and success in a way that.

Makes them want you to be on their team?

That's a choice. And if you keep the blue card.

In mind, you realize every single day we're surrounded by blue card moments. Every day, somebody on your team is making a choice about who to talk to, who to connect with, who to whatever.

So if that's what we do now, as opposed to what we used to.

Do, which is run the punch press, why aren't you acting that way? And that is that story, which I forgot to put in the book, is the story that I would point people to and say, do you see the choice here? And do you see that the people whose names are mentioned a lot actually have a better day at work than.

The people who aren't? Same system that worked at the same place.

I love that story. It's so true. And I would just say for myself also, personal responsibility is one of my religions. The idea that you can generate it yourself and be that person every day, be one of the blue card people every single day. And, you know, I think it's interesting, like, not everybody comes to that understanding. How did you come to that understanding? Like, when did that aha moment come for you that you realized because a lot of your work is about purposefulness and making a difference and being intentional about it. How did that come to you?

So people who are under 50 need a little bit of history to understand this. There used to not be voicemail. You're used to nothing. Email. And there were these little slips of paper, they happened to be pink. And they said while you were out.

And if someone called the receptionist, they used to be receptionist, would write down.

On the pink slip who called you, what their phone number was.

So at my very first job, 1983.

I'm a summer intern. I'm the 30th employee of a company that grew to a couple hundred. And I walk in after lunch on the second day and on the receptionist desk is a plastic carousel with 40 slots in it. It's about size of a very small pizza. And what you would do when you came back from any meeting is you.

Would spin this carousel until you got to your name. The names were in order of hiring, not alphabetical. So you had to spin and spin.

To find your name.

You'd pull out your pink slips and go back to your office. And I walked in, I thought, I'm.

Going to be here for two months. I don't want to spend this thing over and over again looking for my name. So I reached over to the receptionist desk and I took a paperclip and I put it next to my name.

Because I thought, this is going to.

Hurt no one and let's save me some time.

Within an hour, the entire thing was.

Festooned with different arrangements of paperclips.

Each person had just been waiting for somebody who didn't know better to go first. And now I say to everybody in the company, three minutes a day. And I looked at that and I said, that's what I'm going to do.

I'm going to be the guy who puts paperclips in things.

That's amazing. You had that insight from the paperclip. Wow.

I did, actually.

Wow, that is so cool. And so then you set on a trajectory to be the paperclip guy to make a difference again, to show people the way.

It's so easy to just say, oh well, that's some sort of boy Scout thing. That's not what I'm saying. So right after that.

Steve and some people at Apple asked me to beta test the original Mac before it came out because we were a software company in Boston. So I had Ready, set, go version 0.9 and I was one of the first desktop publishers in the world and.

I had nobody working for me. But I had a line of computer.

Games that I did with Ray Bradbury and Arthur C. Clarke. And it was a pretty cool game for 23 year old.

Sounds like it.

But if the engineers didn't work on my software, it was never going to ship because they had other things. So I started a desktop published newsletter.

Every single day, two columns on yellow paper.

I printed out the name of any person in the organization that he worked on my stuff in any generous way. And then I put it in every single mail slot in the company. And after a couple days, you noticed people looking to see if they were in the newsletter. And within two weeks, I had 40.

People working for me.

None of them worked for me, but all of them were like, what do we need done next? Because I created the conditions for them to do what they were there to do in the first place. And that's what's missing, we is that the selfish manager says, you are here to get my job done. The leader says, I'm here to create the conditions, including hiring the right people to help you get your job done. That's more productive.

I love that, and I love the way that's framed. And also that, you know, you have these creative ideas about how to make that happen.

Well, but lots of people do. Yeah, That's. This is not me. I am certain that every person listening to this has. Has at least once told a joke.

Has at least once done a watercolor that no one had done with finger paints or whatever. Everyone comes up with things that haven't been done before. They just don't write them down.

And the magic of my blog, I write it if no one read it. Because I know that tomorrow I need to have a blog post. So that means I spend all day.

Today noticing things and then feel the.

Risk of sharing them tomorrow.

Mm.

Who's keeping anyone from doing that? And that's why when you showed up.

On my radar and the generosity and.

Insight of your work, I'm like, here's someone who gets it, who's doing the real thing. And it's not that you're special. I'm sorry. You're not. And neither am I. It's just a choice.

Just like juggling is a choice. You can learn to juggle if you want to put in the time.

Thank you for saying that about my work. Because that is. My drive is to make a difference. And I think what gets in people's way is a lot. You point about risk, right? Ego, risk, fear of failure, all the chatter in your head. You yourself experienced failure. You had 800 rejection letters in a row, and you didn't quit. And you've said that you probably should have quit. And I'm just curious, why didn't you quit?

I think it was a combination of two things. It was.

Every time I got really close to.

Being sure it was a dead end, I got just enough of an inkling. So instead of a rejection letter being, we don't want to publish this book, it was four paragraphs long, whereas I had never gotten a four paragraph long rejection letter. So I knew I wasn't hassling people, that I was learning and they were starting to trust me more. So that the progress was a key part. And the second part was that my uncle took pity on me because I had no money and got me a consulting gig building a spreadsheet, which was hard in those days for a company that was acquiring six nursing homes. And so I had to visit these nursing homes to get the data. And I can still smell it. That cleaning fluid that they used. And the Proustian power of this is what people who don't make books have to do for a living was enough to get me over the hump. But that last book, when Michael Cater, I did it with him last night when Michael Cater said that he wanted to publish my spot and stain removal book and was going to pay me $3,000, not a lot of money for a year's work. And I had to split at 50, 50 with Herb Bart, I was like, I think I can do this.

Amazing, right? That first. That first yes. Even though it may not be the most glamorous yes in the world. I'm not sure how well that spot and stain book did. How well that did.

It sold a hundred thousand copies.

Oh, it did very well.

It's one of the best selling books I've ever worked.

I love it.

Michael didn't publish it because another publisher bullied me into having her publish it instead.

Oh, wow.

She sold.

She failed at it. But then I got the rights back and I called up Michael and he figured out what to do with it. But I will tell you that what it did fail at was getting out spots.

Unfortunately, here's a true confession. So I didn't write the book.

I used Herb Barnes notebook. Herb, I don't know if he's still around. He was the professor of standing rule at the Philadelphia College of Textiles Science.

And he had this hotline that you could call with state for states. So I was like, hey, Herb, can I use your notebook make? Because you could be the on the spot stained guy. He loved it. He was like, he loved being a stained celebrity. So we made this whole stained book.

And Ladies Home Journal calls up and.

Ladies Home Journal says, we'd like to do a two page spread about the book.

And this is a very big magazine at the time. When you come to the photo shooting, tell us how to do the whole.

I'm like, count me in. So I get there and I realize that what we're doing, we're Taking a.

White apron and there's going to be six stains on it. And then we'll show before and after.

And I know this stuff sort of works, but it doesn't work perfectly. So I said, why don't we do this? Take a picture of the white smock. We'll call that after. And now let's just add the six stains. We'll call that before and everyone can go home.

So I don't know if anyone's harmed by that. Duplicate his move, but I'm confessing it now that the statute of limitations.

The headline's going to be Seth God. Seth Godin apologizes for the stains that didn't come out. I love that we honestly tried and.

We went over after 10 minutes.

That's right. Didn't even try, by the way. It just also goes to show you that a book can be great and not be a bestseller, and a book can literally not work and be a bestseller.

Right.

As you've.

As you told me, I'm sure things worked.

I just think I had some technique issues because I wasn't a staying room of life. No, I was a book packager.

Well, that's a beautiful story. And then. And through that success, that moment, that peak moment, you continue to write. You've now written 20 bestsellers. Is that right? Wow, that's amazing. And you know, I'm still so interested in this notion of, like, feedback, because what you said, I mean, that failure was feedback, including that you got a better failure letter, you know, better rejection letter. And then you've also said that in your Alt MBA course, people would get 400 to 600 pieces of feedback per month. And I know in companies people say I never get feedback and managers say they don't want feedback. Right? So I'm just curious, how can people give feedback so it's seen as a professional critique and not an attack?

This is a great thing to refine. Okay?

Criticism and feedback are different.

Nobody wants criticism, but it is impossible to drive a car without feedback.

You need the curb.

You need to feel the road. You need day work really hard to.

Make it so when you turn the steering wheel, you can feel the. They didn't have to put that in there. They put that in there because you.

Can'T drive without it.

So feedback is physics. Feedback is the world telling us what's.

Up and what's not. So what we did at the Carbon Almanac, we had a couple rules that we followed all the time, and one.

Of them was relentlessly criticized the work.

Never criticize the Worker.

And what that means is let's you and I sit on the same side of the table and look at this.

Piece of work and give feedback on the work.

I don't care who did the work. I don't care what conditions the work was done under, what compromise you had to make. Just on an absolute basis. The same way the blue card people have an absolute basis, same way the consumer does. Why would someone buy this? They don't care that you worked really hard. Who cares who worked on it? This thing, can this thing be improved? And if you can create a culture where we can do that without regard for the status or class or cast.

Of the person who made it and.

Mean it, then you're off to the races.

And inevitably that breaks down if you don't work to keep it that way. So sooner or later it gets personal and people use criticism of the work to criticize the worker. So every day you got to keep coming back to this idea of everyone here, sooner or later is a volunteer.

Everyone here has a choice.

Everyone here is a human being.

Do we want to say somebody that will make them more likely to do good work tomorrow or more likely to leave? And it is possible.

And I know from my early software days, when you find a bug, when you find a solution that doesn't work and you celebrate the feedback, the next.

Version is going to be better.

Yep. So it's about celebrating that feedback. And also something you said is so compelling, sitting on the same side of the table, listening. What I tell managers is listening as an ally.

Right.

The idea that you position yourself as an ally and actually you act every day like, like an ally, like someone who cares about you, like somebody who's on your side and has your back. And then when there is time to critique the work because that's normal, then you do that togeth. I love how you the idea of together, but the point is you, you're. You're on the same side.

Right. And the thing is, a lot of people don't have good taste. Hmm. What is good taste? Good taste is knowing what the customer.

Wants just before they do. And what happens in many fields is.

People who do have good taste can't explain it. And people who don't have good taste.

Use it judgment as a cudgel and a way of expressing power. So this explains some people in the, in the magazine business, the fashion business. It explains people in the music business. Right.

How do you know if it's a hit?

It sells a lot of copies. What makes something sell, sell A lot of copies. It's a hit.

Well, you've told me nothing. Right, right, right. And so I can't get better at making music if you can't tell me.

What you're looking for.

If it's just. I'll know it when I see it. Yeah, well, I'm looking at how many times you failed. You don't know it when you see it. You just have power. So let's be really clear that you putting a stake in the ground, making an equivalence between your taste and what is true isn't helpful. On the other hand, if. And we see this all the time.

In any organization that's changing its logo because everyone thinks that they're an expert on logos. Right? That's true.

And you're not allowed to have a say about the logo. You're just not. I know you work here. You might even be the president. You're not allowed to have a say about the logo. What we get to do is put this in front of 40 people and see if it serves its purpose. If it does serve its purpose, we're done. Let's get back to work. If it doesn't serve its purpose, we got feedback. Make a better logo. But making the president happy about our logo, unless that's its purpose, is just a power play.

Yeah. I think power is part of what? Power. Power and status is part of what corrupts the whole process, actually. The whole system, for sure. Yeah, yeah. And I mean, I think it's an interesting point. Like, if you think about every day. That's what you said. Like, if you think about it every day. So every day you come to work, and I like to have daily practices, the idea that you have to remind your. And when you walk into the workplace or when you get on your zoom or whatever, if you have a tactile moment to remind yourself what you're about and what your mission is and kind of you as a leader, what you're here to do, I feel like that can be a very centering thing.

Not only is it, it's the entire point. Right. I mean, to make it very visceral. Going back to swimming, if you're a lifeguard, it doesn't matter if the chairs.

Are all in a straight row. And it doesn't matter if the ladder is freshly painted. How many people died yesterday?

That's your job.

No one drowns. Right.

If you are building a culture at an institution, what emergency is causing you to be a jerk today? Not allowed. You just let someone drown.

Right.

And so the. This method so inside the.

Inside the Carbon Almanac, one thing Louise Karch and I did is every Wednesday, the two of us posted in our discourse, we never met in person, all 300 of us. Now it's 1900. In the discourse, mentioned by name, six people who had done something really cool that week. And if your name was mentioned, you needed to mention six people who had done something really cool that week. And by the end of Wednesday, a hundred people have been mentioned for doing something. If you schedule a meeting on Zoom, you owe it to the people who are invited to that meeting to make.

It clear why it has to be.

In real time to make it fully interactive. Because if it can be a memo.

It should be a memo to create the conditions for this interactive event.

To actually be interactive or to cancel the meeting.

You get to do that six times a day. If you're not doing that, you should be fired because you just spat on our. On our culture, the one we're trying to build here. And I can make. I could give you 400 more examples of this. Right. The teacher in fourth grade who uses a big red marker to circle mistakes a kid made. Is that really your job? The soccer coach who only puts out the kids who are the oldest, tallest, and most skilled. Is that really your job to win a trophy? No. That's not why we have soccer for 11th graders. We don't have a trophy shortage. Your job is to create the conditions for kids to believe they can get better. You're not doing that when you have.

A High School Musical and only put the people on stage who audition the best. That's not the purpose.

Right, Totally. I just love the phrase create the conditions. Like, if you just sort of say, create the conditions, too, and then you can fill in whatever it is you're supposed to create the conditions for.

Yeah, yeah, exactly.

That's powerful.

So to go with the book, I printed 50,000 booklets.

And the purpose of the booklet? If people buy five, I send them 25 booklets. People hate to throw booklets out.

So you hand the booklets out to people?

Yeah.

And basically, the booklets say, let's get real or let's not play. Let's talk about what conditions are we trying to create. Let's have phrases that we can say back to each other. Right. And if you can't build this culture, well, then don't be surprised when Automattic runs circles around you and runs 40% of the web. Because they created the culture and you forgot.

Right. That's well said. So well said. You know, when we talk about culture and leadership, a topic that always comes up is authenticity. And I knew you've talked about authenticity before, and I've heard you talk about, on the one hand, we don't want authentic surgeons. We all want surgeons in a bad mood and come and operate our knee. We want professional surgeons. But on the other hand, as a creator, there is, and I think even you in your work, you have been striving to be authentic. So how do you kind of tease out the. What I sort of think is this. This paradox of authenticity.

Yeah, I don't think it's a paradox. I think there might be a semantic problem, though.

Okay.

I think authenticity should be reserved for the people who love you. Because what it means to love somebody is even if in a moment they are not the person you hope they will be, you will still love them.

For every other human on the planet, I don't think you get to be authentic. I think responsibility beats that.

I think consistency beats that.

That you might be grumpy, but that doesn't mean you can slam a glass door in the face of a grandmother who's trying to get in to visit her kid. You're being authentic. No, that's the social media excuse for being a jerk. Right. And I show up every day, but when I show up, I'm showing up as Seth Godin with a capital S and a capital G. You don't know me, and you're not supposed to know.

Me because you don't love me.

You just are playing a character who's very closely aligned with who I am. But if I'm not having a good day, I actually say to myself, try to be more like Seth Godin.

Does that work?

Usually, because I don't want to let.

Seth go to dab.

Right, right. That's beautiful. I think that's really well said. We are all playing a role. And so it's another. It's another sort of purpose. It was a moment to be purposeful and intentional.

Exactly.

That's really good.

Why would you have it any other way? Because to have it any other way means that every single time someone is.

A jerk, you don't get to take umbrage.

You have to just completely dance with.

That person over and over and over again.

Well, that's how we end up with Harvey Weinstein.

Right.

Harvey was completely authentic every time the door was shut. That's an okay, right?

Totally. Yes. One thing that Seth Godin has talked about, the Seth Godin has talked about is imposter syndrome. A lot of for people and how they experience imposter syndrome and even yourself experiencing imposter syndrome. So I talk a lot in this show about imposter syndrome because everybody feels that way. In fact, 95% of high achievers feel that way. So I'm curious if you could riff a little bit about your own experiences when you felt imposter syndrome and how you've overcome them.

Oh, it's super simple. Anytime you're being an achiever, you're an imposter. Anytime you're being a leader, you're an imposter. If you're not feeling like an imposter, you're an.

You're either a narcissist of some sort.

Or you're not actually leading, because leading means you're doing something you're not sure is going to work. Well, what it means to do something.

You'Re not sure is going to work is you're pretending that you have it more in order than you do. So if you're working on the truffle.

Assembly line, moving chocolate from one box.

To the other over and over again, you probably shouldn't feel like an imposter because you did it yesterday.

Right.

But everybody else, it's a symptom. You're doing the work. It's a symptom. You're on the right track. And so we need to embrace that feeling and say, not how do I make it go away, but how do I turn into something productive? Who am I being an imposter for on behalf of what. And, you know, talking to you? You have a body of work that I respect a lot. You're sitting in my office. I'm an imposter right this minute because I'm trying my best to. To explore and talk about things I haven't talked about at the same level of depth. And maybe I say the wrong thing. So, yeah, I'm not sure.

Well, when you say you're not sure, I mean, I think what you said and it's accurate, is to do the work and to show up.

Yeah, yeah.

And to not let. Not that. Let that stop you.

Right.

Yeah. What are some things, if you think about your. Right now, what you're working on, if I'm, of course, one of my religions also, is personal development, what would you say is, like, one strength that you really are proud of, like your superpower? And what is, like, one weakness development opportunity that you feel like I really need to work on that.

I have an almost countless number of weaknesses that I have no intention of working to fair.

Because I'm just not sure well rounded is useful.

If you need someone to organize your.

Taxes, please don't call me. And I don't want to get better at that, because if I got better at that, I would get worse at something else. There are people I let down, there are promises I don't keep.

I really wish I could do better at that. And I try every day to do better at that. In terms of the superpower, I think that I am getting better at creating the conditions for others as opposed to just flying solo. The almanac taught me an enormous amount about that.

I did it with a team because I didn't know the answer to what's.

Going on with our climate.

That's why we needed to make the book.

And saying something that gets under someone's skin and teaches them, which is another word for autodidactism, meaning they learned, not.

That I taught them, but that I.

Created the condition for them to teach themselves. That might be the thing I'm best at.

That's beautiful. I guess I would ask what. Okay, we'll take a minute. Get me to pull myself together. How have you grown Seth, as a leader in the past few years?

So Ros Zander and Ben Zander tell the story of Rule Number six. And hearing the story of Rule Number six sort of opened a path for me all those years ago. And I keep staying on that path. And I'll tell the story poorly, but.

Basically the Prime Minister of a small.

Country and he's being interviewed and the Secretary of Commerce runs in screaming and.

Yelling, having a freak out.

And the Prime Minister says, remember Rule six?

And the person calms down and just leaves. And then the Secretary of the treasury comes in.

The world is going to end. There's all these things that have to happen right now. And the Prime Minister says, remember Rule six. He can't stand it. Leave. This happens four more times. Finally, the reporter can't stand it anymore and says, I just got to ask, what's Rule 6?

And the Prime Minister picks up the.

Plaque on their desk that says, remember Rule six. And on the bottom it says in script, don't take yourself so damn seriously.

And what I have discovered from so.

Many organizations, unless you're doing surgery, unless you're helping people who are truly at the end of their rope, for the.

Rest of us, we have created this.

Magical world where there are no saber toothed tigers, where you're not about to fall off a cliff and everything goes.

Better if you just do it to.

Make things better, not to avoid Some imagined downside. And every organization that we've seen that had what it needed to succeed but ultimately failed, the Western unions of the world, the sears of the world, they.

Got into that jam because they were trying not to fail as opposed to trying for better.

Mm. Trying for better. So great. Seth, just two more questions before we wrap up. What do you wish you had known earlier on your journey?

So sometimes people say, if you could.

Say something to your old self, what would you say? And I, I'm grateful for every failure, every dead end, everything that didn't work, every time I was disrespected, every time I doubted because I wouldn't be me. And I've sort of like where I ended up. So if I could only say one thing, it would be, everything's going to be okay. Don't change anything. Everything's going to be.

That's beautiful. Yes. And what advice do you have for founders as they embark on their journey to grow into leaders?

So if you're a founder, you're probably.

Not being as honest as you could be about who's it for and what's it for? Who exactly are you seeking to serve? What change are you seeking to make? If you read or I spend too much time when it comes into my feed about the next unicorn and the.

Next person who raised all this money, is that what it's for?

Right.

Did you do all this so that.

You could become independently wealthy or respected.

By a tiny group of people who eat TechCrunch? Or is there a change you're trying to make to a constituent that you.

Can identify, constituency that you can identify?

If you keep coming back to who's it for and what's it for, it gets so much easier to figure out.

What the path is.

That's beautiful. Well said, Seth. Thank you. Thank you for your generosity to me.

For a great question.

I appreciate that. I appreciate that so much. And thank you for agreeing to do this in person. And it's just been such a joy to spend time with you. So thank you.

Super fun. Thank you.

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