Axél Antojai Carrasquillo argues that identity shifts fail when you try to change overnight. Build new habits in tiny steps instead, treat slip-ups as data points to learn from, and focus on your core purpose rather than chasing external rewards like fame.
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Here's the hardest thing about changing your identity. It's natural for people to think that when you do an identity shift, you got to go all in. And it's got to be like an overnight transformation. But that's the best way for you to actually fail at changing your identity. Because think about it, your identity was formed over your entire lifetime. So you got to chunk it out in small, little actionable pieces. So how do we start off with the most easiest thing that can actually anchor us in into that new identity? And you're going to notice that even with the easiest things, there's some days where you just, like, slip up and you don't even end up doing that thing that you said you were going to do. And it's so easy when that happens for you to just be like, all right, I messed up. I'm just gonna, like, completely go back to the drawing board, start all over again. And that only ends up being like, self sabotage. So even when you miss the mark on a specific day with your new identity, you just keep going anyway. You just pick it up like nothing happened and you keep adjusting. Just see why you fell off the map and then make an adjustment. And the thing that I've noticed that makes it super, super easy is getting super clear on. On what the identity actually is all about. So it's very easy for us to say, oh, I want to become famous. But that ideal version of you that is famous probably isn't even focusing on fame. They're actually just focusing on showing up as the best version of themselves to make the highest impact in the world. And because as their main focus, fame just ends up coming through by default, you can't forget that every identity is a new life. And that takes commitment. Subscribe until I.
