Blake R. Templeton says a husband's constant urgency makes his wife feel unsafe and causes emotional shutdown he calls a "blue screen." He urges men to slow down, stop forcing resolutions on their timeline, and create space for their partner, citing Psalm 23 as a model for patient leadership.
If everything is urgent, nothing feels safe to her because your pressure creates emotional shutdown inside her. She has what's called a blue screen. It's like a computer screen, and when she goes blue, like, bro, you just killed the system. So instead of forcing resolution on your timeline, slow the moment down and create space. Psalm 23:1-2 says, the Lord is my shepherd. He leads me beside quiet waters. If that's how God leads you, that's how you should lead her.
