Blake R. Templeton argues that men revive a partner's attraction by making her feel safe and visibly valued. The man controls the emotional atmosphere of the house. When a woman feels truly seen and admired, her attraction naturally returns.
And that's what I'm talking about. You don't revive her spark, her attraction by asking for it. Playfulness returns when she feels safe, not when she feels it's expected. So instead of asking, why aren't you like you used to be? You need to realize as the king of the house, you're the one who controls the atmosphere. If she's not how she used to be, you've done something to change that. So you've got to come in and actually infuse Fill her with her beauty, her value. Let her be seen. Put her on the stage as your most valuable. Let her see that you're captivated by her. Let her feel your intensity, your loyalty, your devotion. If she's seen, she will be attracted to the one she's seen by.
