Blake R. Templeton suggests husbands replace passive TV time with 10 minutes of eye contact and ask their partner, "What has been the heaviest thing on your heart lately?" The goal is to listen without trying to fix anything, acting as a shepherd who helps lift emotional weight.
Here's what it comes down to. Instead of watching TV together, if there's been tension in the house, replace it with 10 minutes of intentional eye contact and emotional connection. What you got to do as the man is you got to actually spend time and start asking her one question. And that would be, hey, my love, what has been the heaviest thing on your heart lately? I'd love for you to share.
Like, give her the opportunity for you to become what we call shepherd, for you to be the one who removes burdens off of her, to help her navigate her heart. No agenda, no solution, no solving, just being connected and hearing her heart.
