Blake Robert Templeton argues that predictable routines kill attraction in marriage. He says couples should ditch scheduled date nights for spontaneous, playful experiences instead. When partners break the pattern, he claims, they inspire each other to change and reignite the relationship's spark.
Your wife doesn't just need a date night, she needs a different experience with you. Routines kill mystery, and mystery fuels attraction. So instead of defaulting to routine, like, hey, what restaurant do you want to go to? Oh, let's go to the one we always go to. Plan a spontaneous shared experience, and that's going to take you stepping up and actually getting playful, having adventure, you changing your routines. Because I promise you, if you'll change yours, she will change hers.
