Blake Robert Templeton explains how spouses who bring work stress home—fighting for money, hitting deadlines—turn their words punitive instead of nurturing. Safety in marriage means your partner can speak without fear. When you're in work mode, you punish instead of support.
One of the deepest gifts in marriage is being safe to talk to. If you're in the wrong primal role, what will end up happening is you actually are here to fight, like fight for provision, fight for actually making money, fight for solving the deadlines. When you bring that home, you bring tension and pressure home because out of the flow of your heart, your mouth speaks. And then you end up paying your wife with punishment instead of an actual place of safety.
