Blake R. Templeton argues that husbands shape the emotional atmosphere at home by embodying five masculine roles: King, Shepherd, Lover Prince, Servant, and Warrior. Only then can a partner safely express her own varied roles. A man's job is to lead, not to change her mood.
Yes, as a husband, our role is not to like magically figure out when she's going to be in a good mood. Our role as a man is to lead the atmosphere of the house so that her roles can flourish. Like, you can't force Queen into Playful Princess, you can't force Warrior Princess into Nurture, you can't force Seductive French Maid into Desire, but you can become the man whose presence makes those roles safe to return. So instead of trying to like change her, master your own transitions first. Step into King for order, understanding, clarity. Step into Shepherd so that you can shepherd her heart. Step into Lover Prince so that you can bring romance and laughter and adventure. And then step into Servant for relief. Then Warrior for provision and protection. Until a man masters his 5 primal roles, don't expect her to master her 5 primal roles.
