Blake R. Templeton argues that when a woman feels unheard, men should validate her feelings first instead of insisting they're right. He calls for a "shepherd" mindset over a "warrior" one, citing 1 Thessalonians 5:14 on patience and encouragement as the path to real conversation.
If she feels unheard, it doesn't matter if you're right. Instead of this mindset of like, I've gotta be right, that's an identity issue. But in the 5 primal roles, if we step into shepherd instead of a warrior, like trying to solve the problem, we realize that validation opens what logic never will. So instead of correcting her interpretation first, say, that makes sense. Why do you feel that way? Allow her to actually start talking from the depth of her She now finds safety, she opens up, and she'll actually have a conversation that'll actually be encouraging. 1 Thessalonians 5:14 says, encourage the faint-hearted, help the weak, be patient with everyone. Man, that is a beautiful work of the King of Kings.
