Blake Robert Templeton tells husbands how to handle a partner who's fierce at work but playful at home. When both partners' fire turns destructive, he says the husband should step into a 'king' role: affirm her conviction, redirect her energy toward the shared problem, and use collaborative questions to unite as a team.
It's crazy. We love that our girl works and there's more money inside the household, but she's in Warrior Princess when she does that. So then you want Playful Princess to come home and you're frustrated. So just like he comes home in Warrior and tries to solve problems, 'cause that's what he does at work, Warrior Princess, she comes home solving problems, but she needs an ally, not an opponent. Like her fire is dangerous when it's turned toward you, just like yours is dangerous if it's turned toward her. Her fire is powerful when it's aimed at the right enemy at the right mission. So instead of trying to shut her down because it comes across disrespectful, remember, you gotta step into king and see what's happening. So just say, hey, your fire, your conviction is good. Let's aim it at the problem, not at each other. And the easiest way for you to do that is you to actually affirm her and then point toward the problem and ask a call to question that she can then answer so that now you're on the same team working for the same mission. And that is a powerful marriage.
