Blake R. Templeton tells couples to stop fighting each other and start fighting the problem together. When your partner brings their fierce work energy home, don't shut it down. Instead, adopt a "King" mindset: acknowledge their conviction, affirm their strength, and ask a question that frames the issue as a shared mission. You move from opponents to allies.
It's crazy. We love that our girl works and there's more money inside the household, but she's a Warrior Princess when she does that. So then you want Playful Princess to come home and you're frustrated. So just like he comes home in Warrior and tries to solve problems because that's what he does at work, Warrior Princess, she comes home solving problems, but she needs an ally, not an opponent. Like, her fire is dangerous when it's turned toward you, just like yours is dangerous if it's turned toward her. Her fire is powerful when it's aimed at the enemy at the right mission. So instead of trying to shut her down because it comes across disrespectful, remember, you got to step into king and see what's happening. So just say, hey, your fire, your conviction is good. Let's aim it at the problem, not at each other. And the easiest way for you to do that is you to actually affirm her and then point toward the problem and ask a call to question that she can then answer so that now you're on the same team working for the same mission. And that is a powerful marriage.
