Blake Robert Templeton says men bring a Warrior mindset home, focused on solving problems and fighting challenges, but partners need a Shepherd instead: someone present for emotional connection and adventure, not fixes. He recommends a mental timeout before walking in the door to shift roles and cut reactivity.
Warrior is great for solving problems, fighting outside the house, providing for the family, but it is a terrible primal role to be in when you turn toward your wife. So think about having that bow and arrow, you're solving problems. When you come home, she's not looking for her problems to be solved, she's looking for a lover prince who she can go on an adventure with. So as she shares her actual, you know, day, if Warrior comes in, he's gonna go try to solve those problems. He's in the wrong role, wrong perspective. So here's what you do before you actually walk through the door of the house. You gotta transition with purpose. So you gotta call a timeout, cut the emotions, and shift out of warrior.
