Blake R. Templeton argues that men who retreat into a man cave after work lose their attractive influence at home. He says partners need certainty and confident decision-making from their partner, not withdrawal, to feel desire.
Most guys lead like a boss at work. Like, your leadership is on point, but attraction in your home fades when your leadership disappears. So like, because you were a leader at work doesn't mean like now you're off work and you go to your man cave. You're creating uncertainty, and uncertainty creates tension inside of her, not desire. Like, here's an easy example. Instead of asking her what she wants to do every time, You step up as king and plan the evening and then lead confidently. Sometimes your wife just needs you to lead and have certainty in the house. Then she doesn't have to be the one who's carrying the weight. Her desire will come back fast.
