Blake Robert Templeton explains why couples argue: one partner brings their intense work energy, the "Warrior Princess," into the home. The other should take a "King" stance, validating her strengths and redirecting that fire toward the shared problem instead of the relationship. This transforms conflict into teamwork.
It's crazy. We love that our girl works and there's more money inside the household, but she's in Warrior Princess when she does that. So then you want Playful Princess to come home and you're frustrated. So just like he comes home in Warrior and tries to solve problems because that's what he does at work, Warrior Princess, she comes home solving problems, but she needs an ally, not an opponent. Like, her fire is dangerous when it's turned toward you, just like yours is dangerous if it's turned toward her. But her fire is powerful when it's aimed at the right enemy, at the right mission. So instead of trying to shut her down because it comes across disrespectful, remember, you gotta step into king and see what's happening. So just say, hey, your fire, your conviction is good. Let's aim it at the problem, not at each other. And the easiest way for you to do that is you to actually affirm her and then point toward the problem and ask a call to question that she can then answer so that now you're on the same team working for the same mission. And that is a powerful marriage.
