Blake R Templeton argues that validating someone's feelings matters more than winning an argument. He contrasts the warrior stance (problem-solving) with the shepherd stance (validation), showing how phrases like "that makes sense, why do you feel that way?" create safety and deeper conversation.
If she feels unheard, it doesn't matter if you're right. Instead of this mindset of like, I've got to be right, that's an identity issue. But in the 5 Primal Roles, if we step into shepherd instead of warrior, like trying to solve the problem, we realize that validation opens what logic never will. So instead of correcting her interpretation first, say, that makes sense. Why do you feel that way? Allow her to actually start talking from the depth of her She now finds safety, she opens up, and she'll actually have a conversation that'll actually be encouraging. 1 Thessalonians 5:14 says, encourage the faint-hearted, help the weak, be patient with everyone. Man, that is a beautiful work of the King of Kings.
