Blake R. Templeton explains why correcting your partner backfires. Instead of insisting you're right, validate her feelings by saying "that makes sense" and asking "why do you feel that way?" She'll open up when she feels heard, not when she's proven wrong.
If she feels unheard, it doesn't matter if you're right. Instead of this mindset of like, I've got to be right, that's an identity issue. But in the 5 primal roles, if we step into shepherd instead of warrior, like trying to solve the problem, we realize that validation opens what logic never will. So instead of correcting her interpretation first, say, that makes sense. Why do you feel that way? Allow her to actually start talking from the depth of her. She now finds safety. She opens up, and she'll actually have a conversation that'll actually be encouraging. 1 Thessalonians 5:14 says, encourage the faint-hearted, help the weak, be patient with everyone. Man, that is a beautiful work of the King of Kings.
