Blake Robert Templeton argues that men who lead decisively at work but check out at home create tension, not desire. Partners crave the same confidence and planning in the relationship. Take charge of dates and evenings, and desire follows.
Most guys lead like a boss at work, like your leadership is on point, but attraction in your home fades when your leadership disappears. So like, because you were a leader at work doesn't mean like now you're off work and you go to your man cave. You're creating uncertainty, and uncertainty creates tension inside of her, not desire. Like, here's an easy example. Instead of asking her what she wants to do every time, you step up as king and plan the evening and then lead confidently. Sometimes your wife just needs you to lead and have certainty in the house. Then she doesn't have to be the one who's carrying the weight. Her desire will come back fast.
