Blake R. Templeton argues that emotional unpredictability kills romantic attraction. Your partner needs to know what to expect when you walk through the door, not a stressed warrior carrying work pressure and chaos. Stability creates safety, which opens people up to love.
I know. So the fastest way to kill attraction is emotional unpredictability. Like your girl wants to actually know what she can expect at home. And I can tell you, she doesn't want the warrior to come home. She doesn't want the pressure. She doesn't want the feeling of we're on the brink of failure. Even if it's financial or if it's emotional or it's the kids or the chaos at work, all that has to stop before you enter the door. This is the sanctuary. Stability creates safety. Safety creates openness. So instead of reacting, Acting differently every day, or vomiting all your emotions on her at the end of the day. Establish consistent behavior, creating a sanctuary at home. In the house, no matter what, it's only love, joy, and peace. You go protect the family and provide for the family out there, but in the house, this is the place of a sanctuary.
