Blake Robert Templeton describes how couples compete like their work selves: a Warrior husband and Playful Princess wife both trying to solve problems but feeling unsupported. He says the shift happens when the husband moves into a King role, affirming his wife's energy and redirecting both toward the problem together instead of at each other.
It's crazy. We love that our girl works and there's more money inside the household, but she's in Warrior Princess when she does that. So then you want Playful Princess to come home and you're frustrated. So just like he comes home in Warrior and tries to solve problems because that's what he does at work, Warrior Princess, she comes home solving problems, but she needs an ally, not an opponent. Like, her fire is dangerous when it's turned toward you, just like yours is dangerous if it's turned toward her. Her fire is powerful when aimed at the right enemy, at the right mission. So instead of trying to shut her down because it comes across disrespectful, remember, you got to step into king and see what's happening. So just say, hey, your fire, your conviction is good. Let's aim it at the problem, not at each other. And the easiest way for you to do that is you to actually affirm her and then point toward the problem and ask a call to question that she can then answer so that now you're on the same team working for the same mission. And that is a powerful marriage. English.
