Blake Robert Templeton explains how husbands can accidentally make wives feel like adversaries by leaving her to manage all the family logistics alone. Instead of reminding her to relax, he says the husband should take charge of decisions and execution, then invite her into the peace he's created.
The devil tries to make you think your wife is your enemy. When a woman gets stuck managing everything, she shifts the primal role of playful princess and then goes to queen, but then she gets stuck there. She gets buried in logistics, meals, schedules, kids. She has all these like mental tabs open. So instead of telling her to, hey man, relax, chill out, what you've gotta do as king is create the condition for her to relax in. Make the decision, set the plan, and then handle the detail, Then invite her into that space of peace.
