Blake R TempletonFounder, Son of Wisdom · Son of Wisdom · Spiritual architect for men

Your Wife Is Not The Enemy

5 Jun 2026 · 0 min

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In this excerpt from his YouTube sermon, Blake Robert Templeton argues that marital fights should not be treated as battles against one’s spouse. He likens the conflict to an external intruder—such as a robber or the devil—who invades the home to cause damage. The speaker advises couples to recognize the true “enemy” as the destructive force behind the argument, to call a timeout to cut the emotional surge, and then to “attack the attacker” (the underlying issue or mindset) rather than attacking the spouse. The core message is that the wife is not the enemy; the enemy is a deceptive influence that makes the conflict feel personal.

You approach an attack inside the marriage when you approach like that fight, literally as the enemy, the devil, has come into your house like a robber and he is trying to kill, steal, and destroy. You would then call a timeout, cut the emotions of that, and you would literally attack the robber. You would attack the attacker. That's what you've got to do in your marriage. Your wife is not the enemy. The enemy is just trying to make it feel like she is so that you'll attack her instead.