Blake R TempletonFounder, Son of Wisdom · Son of Wisdom · Spiritual architect for men

You're Looking for the Wrong Signal

31 Jul 2026 · 1 min

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Blake R. Templeton says couples mistake a lack of intimacy for emotional distance when one partner is actually trying to initiate through subtle signals the other person misses. He recommends partners agree on a clear physical signal for closeness and practice recognizing it to turn perceived distance into active pursuit.

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Yes, so true. So if she initiates intimacy and he misses it, don't call her distant later. Like, some wives are not refusing intimacy. There's a signal, all right? Their signal is just not registering because you're in the wrong role to receive it. So instead of assuming she never initiates, ask her what her signal is. Define a physical signal and then learn that language, and she won't seem distant. She'll seem like the one pursuing.