Julie Broad says write your raw first draft without holding back, even the harsh feelings. Get it all down, then work with an editor to decide which personal stories actually belong in the book.
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So the first tip is write it down, then work through what needs to be there and what doesn't. The help of a coach or an editor can be hugely beneficial with this because they're not emotionally attached to the story. Get that draft down from your head onto the paper. There's a therapeutic element to just writing it raw, and even including harsh feelings and judgments. It's a bad first draft. It's not the book. The cool part about doing this and giving yourself permission to write it raw with no fear is that you actually might realize the story about your ex or your mom or your former business partner doesn't need to be told at all. If you let the worry of what they might think stop you from even writing, you're missing a major opportunity to heal and to even see what the book actually is.