This is a short YouTube coaching video by Brian Tracy that (1) promotes his Goals Quick Start Masterclass and (2) presents and rebuts three common myths about happiness: (a) you should not put your own happiness first, (b) life is primarily about serving others rather than achieving personal joy, and (c) someone else's definition of happiness should be valid for you. Tracy argues that personal happiness is a legitimate goal, that service to others should be done from a place of joy and contribution, and that happiness is personal and composed of many individual ingredients. The video concludes with CTAs (subscribe, like, free gift) and an invitation for viewers to comment about which myth they believed.
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Three Myths to Happiness True happiness and fulfillment come when you feel that you're making a very valuable contribution to your world. What is yours? Brian Tracy Just as the natural physical state is health and vitality, the natural emotional state is peace and happiness. Whenever you experience a deviation from peace of mind and happiness, it's an indication that there is something amiss. Something is wrong with what you're thinking, doing or saying. You're an incredibly complex organism and your feelings of ease and dis Ease, happiness and unhappiness can be triggered by a myriad of factors. But the bottom line is that your feeling of inner happiness is the very best indicator you could ever have to tell you what you should be doing more of and what you should be doing less of. Unhappiness is to your life as pain is to your body. It's sent as a messenger to tell you that what you're doing is wrong for you, and it's also sent to tell you that you're on the right track. There are many reasons why people don't listen more closely to their feelings, and especially why many people are reluctant to use their own happiness as the standard by which to judge the events in their lives. There are three major myths about happiness that each of us has to some degree. Let's talk about them. The first myth about happiness is that it's not legitimate or correct for you to put your happiness ahead of everyone else. Throughout life, you'll meet people who are very adamant about stating that happiness is something that you may or may not get from life, but it's not a goal or objective by itself. These people say that it's more important to make other people happy than to make yourself happy. Of course this is nonsense. Human beings are happiness tropic organisms. Everything we do in life is oriented towards maintaining and increasing our level of happiness. We are psychologically constructed so that it's impossible for us to be any other way without making ourselves mentally and emotionally ill. The fact is that you cannot give away to anyone else what you don't have have for yourself. Just as you cannot give money to the poor if you don't have any. You can't make someone else happy if you are yourself miserable. The very Best way to assure the happiness of others is to be happy yourself and then to share it with them. The second myth, closely tied to the first myth that happiness is not a legitimate aim, is the admonition that we're here to serve others rather than ourselves. There are many poems and essays that repeat this main theme. They say that we've just justified our life on this earth if we'd made some other person happy on the way through. This is partially true and partially false. It's partially true in the fact that most important things in life we do is to serve other people in some way. It's through service to others that we achieve a sense of meaning and purpose in life. It's only when we lose ourselves in doing something that we feel benefits someone more than ourselves, that we experience transcendence, that we feel ourselves rising above the tedium of day to day activity. To paraphrase Robert Louis Stevenson, everybody makes their living by serving someone. However, the key is to serve with joy and happiness. The answer to this myth is that yes, we're here to serve others, but we're also here to achieve our own joy, satisfaction and fulfillment. As a result, one of the requirements of high self esteem and confidence is the feeling that we're making a contribution to the world that we're living in, that we're putting in more than we're taking out. So we serve others in order to be happier than we would be if we were not. The third myth about happiness is that someone else's definition of happiness is valid for you. Often we feel a little uneasy if we're not happy doing something that someone else thinks we should be happy at. Most people allow their parents to influence their choices of career and find themselves miserable as a result. They want to please their parents, they want to make them happy, but they're unable to accept experience any joy in what they're doing. The fact is that in life, happiness is very much like a smorgasbord. If a hundred people went to a smorgasbord and each put food on their plates in the quantity and mix that each felt would be more pleasing to himself or herself, every single plate would be different. Even a husband and wife would go up to a smorgasbord and come back with plates that look completely different. Happiness is the same thing. It is composed of a great variety of ingredients, physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Each person requires a particular combination of these ingredients in order to feel the very best about himself or herself and life. Now, we'd love to hear from you. So our question today is, have you gone through life believing one of these three myths about happiness? Leave a comment below and we'll be sure to follow up with you. Thanks for watching. And as Brian says, if you want to change your future, take action. And take action now.
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