Brian Tracy explains how smiling satisfies deep needs for acceptance and self-esteem. A genuine smile builds relationships, raises confidence, and boosts work performance. He cites that smiling uses 12 muscles versus 113 to frown, and triggers endorphin release.
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Hello, I'm Brian Tracy and today I want to talk to you about how a smile can affect your self esteem. An important way of satisfying a deep subconscious need for self esteem and personal value is acceptance. People have deep subconscious needs and the deepest need of all. The core emotional need of the human being is for self esteem and self value. It's to maintain healthy relationships of mutual respect. The deepest need is to feel important. An important way of satisfying a deep subconscious need for self esteem and personal value is acceptance. First, establish healthy relationships and boost your self esteem and the self esteem of others. Sociologists say that lack of acceptance or rejection from individuals or groups is the main cause for many problems with disaffected groups in our society. Much of the antisocial behaviors of these groups is aimed at somehow gaining the acceptance of people who they feel do not accept them currently and to gain or create healthy relationships. In healthy relationships, this is what everyone is seeking. Everyone wants to be liked and accepted just the way they are. If all you did was to continually express unconditional acceptance to each person you meet both at home and at your workplace, you would soon be one of the most popular people in your world. And how do you express unconditional acceptance? Simple is to just wear a smile. Smiling at an audience during speeches or presentations is also a useful speaking tip I give to all my students. This next tip is just as important as setting smart goals to maintain progress toward creating a happy life. Did you know that it takes 12 muscles to smile and 113 muscles to frown when you smile at another person? A warm, genuine smile. You tell that other person that he or she is attractive, pleasant, likable, safe and secure in your estimation and in your presence. A single smile is so powerful that it can often transform a person with low self esteem, jolting them from negativity to a person with a positive attitude. Smiles are so powerful that many long term marriages and healthy relationships have begun with a single smile shared across a room. You've heard people say that when our eyes met, we both knew that we were meant for each other. Each morning when you come to work, do the rounds. Go to each person on your team and smile at them. Ask them how they are. Take a few moments to listen patiently and smile while they tell you what they are doing and how they are feeling. As you go from person to person, like a lamplighter going from lamp to lamp, they will light up and smile themselves, feeling happy about being at work. When you go around and smile at people, it's very much like stepping on the accelerator of their potential and igniting positive thinking and a positive attitude wherever you go. They start to perform at a higher level because their self esteem has risen. They feel good about themselves and their work. Next, there's a big payoff for smiling at people. When you smile at another person, the physical action releases endorphins in your brain. Endorphins are called nature's happy drug. They make you feel happy and raise your self esteem. When you smile, you feel and act in a more personable way to everyone around you and you exude a feeling of positive attitude. The most popular and influential people in most situations are people who genuinely smile at others when they meet them and greet them. Smiling is one of the techniques used to promote cooperation in the workplace and the ability to encourage cooperation amongst teammates is an important leadership quality of business leaders in the 21st century. Every time you smile, you not only make other people feel good about themselves, but you raise your own self esteem, increase your own level of positive attitude and you feel better about yourself as well. You will then start to build healthy relationships all around you. All it takes is the deliberate decision by you to smile at the people around you and to express to them that you're genuinely happy to see them. The opposite of smiling is being negative or passive. It is walking around the office with a glum or negative look on your face since so many people take everything personally. If you are negative for any reason and each of your staff members will wonder if it is something that they have done personally that has made you unhappy, they become preoccupied with your mood, they slow down their work and their creativity comes to a halt. If you're negative for any period of time, they start to talk about it and worry about their jobs. Finally, maintain a positive attitude from this day forward and decide that you are going to smile at each person in your department. Each morning when you go in, walk around and greet them and ask them how they're doing. Treat them as if they were working for free and their coming to work was purely voluntary because you treat them well. Treat them as if you owe them money and you are behind on the payments. Treat them as if their work were essential to your success and in doing your work, which it is now. I'd love to hear from you. So my question today is how can you build healthy relationships with a positive attitude? Leave a comment below and I'll be sure to follow up with you. Thanks for watching. And remember, if you want to change your future, take action and take action now. If you enjoyed this video and feel it was valuable in teaching you about self esteem. Subscribe to my channel like this video and share this video with your friends. 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