5 Great Steps to Building Self-Confidence

Everyone wants to be more popular with others and here are five great steps to building greater self confidence. How would you like to become popular and more welcome with people in your social or business circles? Well, you can be by learning how to be more charming in every interaction with others. Do you know how to become more popular in your personal and professional life? Well, the deepest hidden human desire is the desire to feel important. When you go through life building self confidence and making other people feel important and valuable, they will like you and welcome you and they'll open every door for you. And this is how to become popular, both professionally and personally. If you're in business, becoming a charming person. Making others feel important will help you in every business situation, from negotiating terms to borrowing money to influencing key customers. If you're in sales, the way customers feel about you and feel when they are with you will determine your level of sales and referrals. More than any other factor in your personal and family and social life. Learning to be more charming will make you more popular, desirable, influential and persuasive than any other quality. As the poet said, people will forget everything you said, but they'll always remember how you made them feel. How do you become a genuinely charming person? In my book the Power of charm, there are 35 chapters dedicated to answering this question, but here are five behaviors you can practice with every person to make him or her feel more important. First, just smile. An open, honest, happy to see you smile warms people's hearts, makes them feel important and causes them unconsciously to like you from the first moment. Each person has a deep down need to be accepted unconditionally by other people without judgment or criticism and a smile tells them that you accept them and like them unconditionally. Second, promote high self esteem in others with appreciation. Everyone loves to be appreciated for something, anything that they have done for someone else. So when you say the magic words thank you early and often, you make people feel important and happy. You raise their self esteem and increase their desire to help you and to do things for you. Third is to give genuine compliments whenever you admire the possessions or traits or accomplishments of others. As Abraham Lincoln said, everybody likes a compliment. Admire people's choices in clothing and hairstyles and cars and briefcases or purses or even their office layout. Admire their homes or apartments, admire their degrees or certificates. Whenever you compliment a person genuinely on something he or she has obviously invested time and emotion in achieving, you boost their self image and build high self esteem. As a result, they find you to be charming Fourth, build self confidence through approval of others. Give praise and approval generously for both small and large accomplishments. Whenever anyone does anything worthwhile, tell them how good they are and what a fine job they've done. Building Self Confidence and High Self Esteem when you praise your spouse and children, when you praise your staff and co workers, your customers and suppliers, you make them feel more important and cause them to see you as charming. And fifth, give them your full attention. People feel valuable and important to the degree to which they are listened to and respected. Whenever you listen closely to another person when he is talking, his self esteem goes up, his brain releases endorphins which is nature's happy drug, and he feels good about being in your presence. You see, you always pay value to a person by listening attentively, by hanging on every word. When you do, he or she warms up to you and begins to find you to be charming. Go through life looking for little opportunities to make people feel valuable and special. Smile at them as if you're glad to see them. Thank them regularly, compliment them sincerely, praise them lavishly, and listen to them when they speak. Building self confidence and promoting High self esteem. Soon, almost without effort on your part, everyone will be talking about what a charming person you are. Thank you for watching this video on how to become popular through unconditional positive regard through building self confidence and promoting high self esteem in others. If you enjoyed this video, please subscribe to my channel and share this video with others.