5 Ways to Increase Confidence & Improve Relationships

Hello. There are five positive and constructive behaviors that you can practice to boost levels of self confidence and self esteem in others and improve the way that you get along with other people. Each of these appeals to the deep subconscious needs of others. To their needs. To feel important, valued and respected are very powerful. The first behavior is simply to be agreeable. When you nod, smile and agree with a person who is talking, he or she feels more valuable and respected. He or she feels that what they have to say is important and therefore he or she is also important. When I was growing up, I became a great arguer, a debater. Because of my argumentative nature, I soon found myself spending a lot of time alone. People began to deliberately avoid me. I was winning all the arguments, but I was losing all the friends. So the best way to disagree with someone you feel is incorrect if you have to is by using a third party. For example, you could ask, what do you think our customers would say if they knew that we were doing that? Your decision to become an agreeable and easygoing person will lower your stress levels and increase your ability to to influence others to help you. Now, the second self esteem building behavior you can practice is acceptance. When two people meet, it's important to establish a certain level of acceptance. When you express genuine, unconditional acceptance of another person, you raise that person's self esteem. You improve that person's self image and you make him or her feel relaxed and safe in your company. The third behavior you can use to build self esteem in others is simple. Just smile. It only takes 13 muscles to smile and 110 muscles to frown. A genuine smile directed at another person says a lot. When you smile at another person, he or she feels valuable, important and worthwhile. You will raise your own self esteem by making an effort to raise the self esteem of others. And you can do it by smiling. The fourth step you can take to raise the self esteem of others is by expressing appreciation. Whenever you express gratitude or appreciation toward another person for anything that the other person has done, you make him or her feel more valuable, more competent and more worthwhile. The words thank you have tremendous power. Each time you say them to another person, his or her self esteem goes up. Develop the habit of saying thank you to everybody for anything and everything they do. Send thank you notes. Those are some of the most powerful self esteem and relationship builders ever invented. Develop an attitude of gratitude. The happiest, most popular people are those who go through their lives being genuinely grateful to for the things that happen to them and for everyone they meet. The fifth way to raise the self esteem of others, to make them feel important, is to express approval of them on every possible occasion. Tired children who are praised and approved of by their parents or teachers actually perk up and recover their lost energy. When people are genuinely praised by someone they respect, their enthusiasm and alertness increases and they feel much better about themselves. It's impossible to improve relationships in one day. It's a long process. Begin the process by smiling at everyone you meet and remembering to say thank you. If you did enjoy this video, please Visit me@briantracy.com no excuses for a free chapter of my book. No the Power of Self Discipline.