A short motivational talk by Brian Tracy describing fear of failure and fear of rejection as primary obstacles to adult success, and introducing a four-step “Worry Buster” technique (define the problem; write the worst outcome; accept the worst; improve upon the worst) to reduce anxiety and enable constructive action. The talk emphasizes developing courage, self-esteem and self-love, and encourages viewers to apply the technique and take immediate action.
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Whatever you believe with conviction becomes your reality, whether or not it is true or false. The fear of failure is the single greatest obstacle to success in adult life. Taken to its extreme, we become totally preoccupied with not making a mistake, with seeking approval for security above all other considerations. The experience of the fear of failure is found in the words of I can't, I can't. We feel it in the front of the body, starting at the solar plexus and moving up to the rapid beating of the heart. Rapid beating and a tight throat. The second major fear that interferes with performance and inhibits expression is the fear of rejection. We learn this when our parents make their love conditional upon our behavior. If we do what pleases them, they give us love and approval. If we do something they don't like, they withdraw their love and approval, which we interpret as rejection. As adults, people raised with conditional love become preoccupied with the opinions of other people. Many men develop type A behavior which is characterized by hostility, suspicion and an obsession with performance to some undetermined high standard. This is expressed in the attitude of I have to, I have to, I have to and is associated with the feeling that I have to work harder and accomplish more in order to please the boss who has become a surrogate parent. More than 99% of adults experience both these fears of failure and rejection. They are caught in the trap of feeling I can't, but I have to or I have to, but I can't. The antidote to these fears is the development of courage, character and self esteem. The opposite of fear is actually love, self love and self respect. Acting with courage in a fearful situation is simply a technique that boosts our regard for ourselves to such a degree that our fears subside and lose their ability to affect our behavior and our decisions. One of the most powerful techniques ever developed to overcome fear and to relieve stress is called the worry Buster. Many people have come back to me and said that this simple method has changed their lives from negative to positive and enabled them to be more effective in their work, their personal lives, than they had ever thought possible. Here are the four steps of my formula. Step one is to define the problem or situation you are worrying about. Clearly, in writing, the best way to do this is to take a pad of paper and draw a line from top to bottom, down center the middle, and on the left side of the pad of paper write a clear description of your problem. The answer to the question, what exactly am I worrying about? Fully 50% of all problems can be resolved at this definition stage. In medicine, they Say that accurate diagnosis is half the cure. Many of our worries exist because we have not taken the time to sit down and really define clearly what it is that is bothering us. Step two is to write out the worst possible outcome of the worry situation. On the right hand side of the page, answer the question what is the worst possible thing that can happen as a result of this problem? You may lose your money, lose your relationship, lose your job, your investments, your health or your prestige. Whatever it is, write it down. Steps one and two will quickly start relieving the stress that causes worry in the first place. What we have found is that it is resistance to facing the worst possible outcome that causes most of the stress and anxiety associated with worry. Once you have written down the worst possible thing that can happen, you will find that you will slowly stop worrying. Step three is to resolve to accept the worst possible outcome should it occur. Just say to yourself, well, it if it happens this way, I'll learn to live with it. Once you have resolved to accept the worst should it occur, you no longer have anything to worry about. All the stress caused by denial, by refusing to face what the worst could be, suddenly disappears. And step four is to begin immediately to improve upon the worst. Having resolved to accept the worst should it occur now, think of everything that you could possibly do to to make sure that the very worst does not occur. Once you stop worrying and have resolved to accept the worst, your mind will be calm and clear and capable of creative thought. By overcoming fear, you're now in a position to do something constructive. If you enjoyed this video and feel it was worthwhile in teaching you how to boost your productivity, share it with your friends or anyone else who might benefit from this information. Before we wrap up, I'd like to leave you with a thought to share with your friends and followers. Whatever you believe with conviction becomes your reality, whether or not it is true or false. Now, I love to hear from you. So my question today is what is something that you've been fearful of and how did using my Worry Buster technique help you? Leave a comment below and I'll be sure to follow up with you. Thanks for watching. And remember, if you want to change your future, take action. And take action now. If you enjoyed this video and feel it was valuable in helping you to overcome your fear of rejection, subscribe to my channel like this video and share this video with your friends and then click the button for a free gift. Thanks again for watching.
