Brian Tracy explains how negative self-talk kills motivation and risk-taking, then walks through four steps to fix it: notice what you're telling yourself, challenge and reframe those thoughts, keep a list of your strengths, and repeat "I like myself" 50 times daily.
50 times a day.
Hello, I'm Brian Tracy, and today I want to give you some tips on how to replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts. What happened the last time you made a mistake? Were you able to step back and see what went wrong and fix it? Or were you so hard on yourself that you couldn't see past what happened? Too often we allow negative self talk to stop us in our tracks. Instead of using mistakes as a motivator to propel us forward, here are some tips where you can use failure to help propel you forward to greater success. First, make sure that you're talking positively to yourself. We are constantly giving ourselves internal messages that can either inspire or reprimand. The trouble is that most people tend to be too harsh on themselves, and the more you talk negatively to yourself, or the more you rehash a negative event, the less motivated you will feel. This can actually set you up for failure in the future. Psychologists know the importance of the internal loop. This is a programmed set of thoughts that we say to ourselves over and over again. If those thoughts are negative, they will affect the way that you see yourself, and this can keep you from taking the kind of risks needed to succeed. The next time you catch yourself saying something negative to yourself internally, stop and listen. Really listen. Are you berating your decisions and actions or are you giving yourself the kind of silent pep talk that you need to move forward? It's important to recognize the kind of messages that you send yourself all day, every day. You may be surprised at how harmful many of these messages really are. Negative self talk is like a disease. It grabs a hold of you and doesn't want to let go. So don't let negative thoughts ruin your success. Turn those negative messages into positive ones. Sound impossible? It isn't, but it does take some practice. Here are a few tips to help you quiet the inner critic inside of you. It's important that you acknowledge what you're really saying to yourself. We do it all the time without ever realizing the damage it can cause. Take some time today to take note of the messages that you are sending internally. Listen to how you talk to yourself. Once you begin to recognize the messages that could be hurting your ability to perform, you'll be in a better position to challenge those thoughts the next time they come up. Now that you recognize the rotten messages you are feeding yourself, it's time to make some changes. Remember, you aren't stuck with those unhealthy messages. Every negative thought you create can be transformed into a positive thought. Take the time to turn negative thoughts into more positive and constructive ones. While it's okay to acknowledge where improvements can be made in your life, constantly dwelling on what they are is going to SAP you of energy and motivation. To help break the loop of negativity, begin by making a list of all the things that you are good at and keep it where you can see it on a regular basis. Add new items regularly. This is a good reminder of the improvements that you have made along the way already, but it's not all. You also have to review that list when you are feeling down for any reason. It's a great way to give yourself a quick pick me up. Once you begin to concentrate on the good things going for you, the more negative aspects will begin to lose their power and eventually fall away. Here's the rule. Never say anything to yourself about yourself that you do not want to be true. Practice this with the members of your family. If you do not want it to be a true statement about them, don't say it and it won't become a true statement. Every time you notice yourself sending an internal message that is less than positive, take a moment to change it to something positive. Stop being so hard on yourself. Readjusting your attitude and changing your sour thoughts into productive ones is going to take a bit of work and concentration, but it's essential to you becoming the kind of person that gets things done. Before we wrap up, I'd like to leave you with a thought to share with your friends, friends and followers. Say the words I like myself over and over 50 times a day. I like myself. I like myself. I like myself now. I'd love to hear from you. So my question today is have you ever caught yourself talking negatively to yourself about yourself? What did you do to snap out of it? Leave a comment below and I'll be sure to follow up with you. Thanks for watching. And remember, if you want to change your future, take action. And take action now. If you enjoyed this video and feel it was valuable in teaching you about positive self talk, subscribe to my channel like this video and share this video with your friends. Don't forget to click the button on the screen for a free gift. Thanks again for watching.
