My #1 Secret To Improve Relationships | Brian Tracy

Hello, I'm Brian Tracy and today I want to share with you my top secret for improving relationships in your work life and everything in between. You can live a life with nothing stopping you from achieving everything you deserve and nothing holding you back. Being able to maintain relationships and have strong social skills are traits that can have a huge impact on your entire life, which is why everyone can and should master them. When you create positive relationships in every area of your life, it becomes easier to find happiness and success. Did you know that the ability to get along with other people, otherwise known as social intelligence, which is a very important type of intelligence, is one of the most highly paid forms of intelligence in America? In fact, 85% of your success in life will be determined by your social skills, your ability to interact positively and effectively with others, and to get them to cooperate with you to help you to achieve your goals. Learning how to develop and foster these relationships can do more for your career and life than perhaps anything else you can accomplish. On the other hand, though, those who have not mastered the art of relationship building or who have not developed strong social skills experience more failure, frustration and unhappiness in life and work than anyone else. According to one study, more than 95% of people who were let go from their jobs over a 10 year period were fired because of poor social skills rather than lack of competence or technical ability. Psychologist Sydney Girard even said that most joy in life comes from happy relationships with others and most problems in life come from unhappy relationships with others. Simply put, most of your problems in life are people problems. Fortunately, you can become extremely skilled at getting along well with others. And in this video I'm going to reveal my top method, two proven methods to immediately improve your relationships and with virtually anyone under almost any circumstances. My number one secret to improving relationships in your life is to use the law of Indirect effort. The law of Indirect effort explains that you get almost everything in your relationship with others more easily by approaching them indirectly rather than directly. For example, if you want to impress people, the direct way is to try to convince them of your admirable qualities and accomplishments. But trying to impress another person by talking about yourself can be awkward and embarrassing and not bring about any real benefit. The indirect way of impressing another person is simply to be impressed by them. The more you are impressed by the other person by who they are or their accomplishments, the more likely it is that they'll be impressed by you. The same goes for getting someone interested in you simply become interested in them. The more interested you become in them the more likely it is that they will feel the same way about you and toward you. If you want someone to believe in you, use the law of indirect effort and believe in them. Whenever you show that you have confidence in them, they will believe in you and have confidence in you. By the same principle, if you want someone to respect you, respect them. When you express respect or admiration for another person, they will feel the same thing in kind and feel the same way toward you. You get what you give out. Whatever you send out, you get back. Now. The best way to successfully apply the law of indirect effort is to develop a healthy and confident personality. You are structured in such a way that everything you do to or for or with another person has a reciprocal effect on yourself. Everything you do to raise the self esteem of another person raises your own self esteem. At the same time and in the same measure. Since self esteem is the hallmark of a healthy personality, which is defined as how much you like yourself, you can actually improve the health of your own personality. And by taking every opportunity to improve the health of someone else's personality by teaching them and treating them as if they were both valuable and important. What you sow in the lives of others, you reap in your own life. Everyone you meet is carrying a heavy load. They all grow up with a feeling of inferiority. And throughout most of their lives they need to be praised and recognized by others. No matter how successful they may have become, they still need their self images reinforced and boosted on a regular basis. There is a line that contains the key to excellent human relations and it is this. I like you because of the way I feel about myself when I am with you. The happiest people are those who make other people feel good about themselves when they are in their presence. When you go through life raising the self esteem of others, opportunities will open up before you and people will help you in ways that you cannot imagine. The key to raising other people's self esteem is is simply to make them feel important. When you go through your day looking for ways to make others feel important, you will be welcomed with open arms everywhere you go. By bringing others up, you'll also be healthier and happier yourself with lower stress, higher energy levels and an overall increase in life satisfaction. So take every opportunity to say and do things that make people feel more valuable. Because in doing so, your own self esteem improves, your own personality becomes more positive and healthy. And you'll impress into your own mind whatever you express towards someone else, whatever is expressed is impressed. And if you're looking to improve your relationships. Check out my Personal Development Plan template. It's free and it'll help you to master the secrets for improving relationships that'll open doors and opportunities that you didn't know existed. Now I'd love to hear from you. So my question today is when was the last time you used the law of indirect effort and what was the outcome? What did you do to make other people feel valuable about themselves and what happened as a result? Leave a comment below and I'll be sure to follow up with you. Thanks for watching. And remember, if you want to change your future, take action and take action now. If you enjoyed this video and feel it was valuable in teaching you about my number one secret for improving relationships, work, life and everything in between, subscribe to my channel like this video and share this video with your friends. Don't forget to click the button on the screen for a free gift. Thanks again for watching.