Love gets confused with attachment and control because we use the word for everything. Psychologist Robert Sternberg's framework breaks it into three parts: intimacy, passion, and commitment. When one is missing, you get obsession, duty, or friendship instead of real love.
You know, we use the word love for almost everything. We say we love our partner, our kids, our pets, even our favorite dessert, our car, our clothes, our house. But if you can love everything, does the word really mean anything at all? So many of us mistake attachment for love. We confuse control with care. We call it love, when it's really dependency or a fear of being alone. But real love is something deeper. It's not possessive. It's not codependent. It's not about completing you. It's about growing with you and together. Psychologist Robert Sternberg described love as a triangle made up of intimacy, passion, and commitment. Each side of the triangle represents a vital part of a healthy connection. Intimacy is closeness, the trust and understanding that let you be fully seen, like your best friend. Passion is the spark, the energy, the desire and excitement that draws you together. It's what keeps the relationship alive. And commitment is the choice, the decision to stay, to nurture, and to grow. It's what makes a relationship last. When one of these 3 elements is missing, then the love becomes unbalanced. Too much passion without intimacy becomes obsession. Commitment without connection feels like duty. And intimacy without passion can fade into friendship. In this event, we're going to unpack what real love looks like, not just in theory, but in practice. We'll explore how your beliefs about love were formed, why we attract certain dynamics, and how to build a love that's rooted in truth, not fear. Because love isn't something you find, it's something you build, something you build together. If you're ready to understand love on a deeper level and learn how to create relationships that feel both safe and alive, join us at Discover U for our free What Is Love Foundation event. It's hosted in multiple time slots throughout the year, And it's an event you'll want to take multiple times as you explore what love really is and discover the path to experiencing it. Are you ready to grow? Come and see us at Discover You.
