Desire Dies Without THIS!

The thing about desire is that it's a very simple equation. It's a combination of trust and safety and security, and you want to be with your partner and you trust that they're going to do a good job and treat you well. You need that. But without the variety and novelty, the trust and safety becomes boring. So desire is generated when you add new things, and there are a lot of partners who have resistance new things, and you have to understand that all that is is fear, and fear transforms through education, through learning about what things are. So between the workshop-y first, you know, erotic playdate of the sex life bucket list and seeing what you're going for with steamy sex ed, you kind of get that view into what possibility is and how beautiful it is and how good and wholesome it is, actually.