If it’s not at least an 8/10, it’s a no.

Name: If it’s not at least an 8/10, it’s a no.
Uploaded: 2025-07-21T17:01:05+00:00
Duration: 56 s
Channel: Claudia von Boeselager
Description: In this coaching monologue, the speaker emphasizes the importance of first clarifying one’s deeper purpose—the “true north blueprint”—as a foundation for…

21 Jul 2025 · 1 min

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In this coaching monologue, the speaker emphasizes the importance of first clarifying one’s deeper purpose—the “true north blueprint”—as a foundation for making intentional choices. After establishing mindset and purpose, she introduces a concrete decision rule: only accept commitments that rate an 8, 9, or 10 out of 10 on a personal relevance scale; anything lower is a firm “no.” The rule is presented through everyday analogies (last‑minute events, casual invitations) to illustrate how saying no protects valuable resources such as time, creativity, and family life. The overall message is that clear purpose combined with a high‑threshold filter enables focused, purpose‑aligned living.

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I help people get very clear on their why, right? That true north blueprint. Because I feel like many of us say yes to so many things because we're not 100% sure exactly what it is that we're trying to get to and what our purpose is. Obviously, first piece is the mindset, but then looking at that true north blueprint, and then as the next step, it's also looking at what is the way to say no to the things that are not in our alignment. There's a few different analogies that I love. Things will always come up, right? But if you look at something, a last-minute thing, or like, hey, you know, we're going here, do you want to come to this event, etc. And so one of them is if there isn't a 7 out of 10, you only have an 8, 9, and 10 out of 10, or a 6 and below. If it isn't an 8, 9, or 10 out of 10, it's a no. So you need to prioritize your time and know that you only want the things that are— you're like, wow, I'd love to be there. If it's an okay, it's a no, because you're deprioritizing yourself, your time, your creativity, your family, or whatever it