Take Responsibility For Yourself Through Divorce - Dr Marcy Cole on Conscious Co-Parenting #shorts

Name: Take Responsibility For Yourself Through Divorce - Dr Marcy Cole on Conscious Co-Parenting #shorts
Uploaded: 2023-05-09T11:15:02+00:00
Duration: 46 s
Channel: Claudia von Boeselager
Description: In this short teaching, Dr. Marcy Cole explains how individuals can take personal responsibility in divorce and co‑parenting by applying a dialectical…

9 May 2023 · 1 min

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In this short teaching, Dr. Marcy Cole explains how individuals can take personal responsibility in divorce and co‑parenting by applying a dialectical behavioral therapy principle: holding two realities at once. She urges parents to recognize both the shortcomings and the strengths of their co‑parent, to maintain a balanced view for the child, and to use this perspective to develop better communication and relationship strategies moving forward. The core message is that one can be upset with a partner while still caring for them, and that acknowledging both flaws and love creates a healthier co‑parenting dynamic.

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Taking responsibility for yourself, not pretending that your partner, co-parent, is perfect, but also assure the child to remember to have a balanced view. This is called dialectic behavioral therapy. The idea that you can hold two realities at the same time, right? You can be upset with someone and still care about them. You can realize that someone has a problem in this area, even your, your own parent, but they have unbelievable strengths over here. Right? And that they're not always at their best, but they always love you. And this is what we wanna be able to do for ourselves and co-parents together, remembering, gosh, we didn't work the way we hoped we would, but we certainly can work on developing a strategy and communication and relationship that works better for us moving forward.