#86 39 Harsh Truths I Wish I Knew In My 20s

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Ninth birthday like right now today i thought i'd give you a list of thirty nine things i wish i knew many years ago choose your hard being poor is hard getting rich is hard being overweight is hard getting fit is hard being married is hard being single hard every choice in life is hard if you don't choose hard your hard will choose you ask more questions socrates said smart people learn from everything and everyone average people learn from their experiences stupid people already have all the answers so when you ask the right question you will find out the right answer amateurs want to do what they love pros learn to love what it takes it's not about what you're good at it's about doing what needs to be done there's a real big difference and if you figure it out you'll be what most people won't i have a friend who used to work for two billionaires after all he's seen he said to me i wish you not one penny over two hundred ninety nine million dollars reality gets lost somewhere after that so don't chase billions chase purpose we've weaponized distraction against ourselves we've turned silence into the enemy every goddamn moment has to be productive now can't just walk need the podcast can't shit in peace got a scroll can't eat without netflix numbing the edges it's mental fast food you don't need empty calories for your body or for your mind one of the greatest unlocks you can have be bored more often turn off your phone and your brain turns on once you lose it it's hard to get it back this is good advice for finances and fitness so shape it's easier to stay in shape i rarely meet someone super fit who also doesn't work incredibly hard in the other areas of their life this is another one to remember if someone you just met is talking shit about their ex friend partner boss guess what they will be doing the same to you next so surround yourself with people whose character you admire and you'll begin to notice your character improves too behind every successful person is a story that gave them no choice we often don't even realize that a pain point we're dealing with is can become our turning point you know that old saying put your relationships first it turns out it's right my number one regret in life not prioritizing my marriage above just about everything marrying well is the biggest life hack of all and i should know because i've done it twice and i didn't do it right the first time you become the person you want when no one else is watching it's the quiet private reps that will never be cheered that actually lead to greatness never take advice from someone who hasn't actually achieved the thing they're advising about incredibly underrated hack if you don't want their life don't listen to their life advice if you don't want their marriage don't listen to their marriage advice if you don't want their bank account don't take money advice from them why do we so often take advice from people who haven't actually done the thing they're telling us how to do inconvenience yourself don't want to go to a friend's baby shower i don't know get up and do it anyway this generation went way too hard setting boundaries show up for those you love even when it's not convenient by the way my friend kim taught me this one because i do not like picking up people from the airport in fact i think people who ask you to pick them up from the airport they hate you a little bit inside she vehemently disagrees with me thinks that we should all do airport pickups at all times she's probably also one of those people that says that you should ask your friends to move you can tell me in the comments if you are either one of those two people and then you can unsubscribe no just kidding but seriously sometimes we should probably do things even when it's not convenient the greatest muscle you can build is urgency decrease the time between having an idea and getting it done everything changes when you do this is a lesson learned from many many millionaires and billionaires probably the number one thing i've done to get rich if it's not a hell yes it's a no period exclamation point you will be richer when you understand leverage but you'll also be aware of when people are trying to take advantage of learn it so you can spot it learn it so you can spot it in your life and learn it so you can spot it in business there's good leverage and there's bad leverage you must learn to be disliked or you will find yourself stuck in a prison of other people's beliefs so stop relying on the approval of others once you do you'll stop caring about their disapproval too you don't have time to hate someone when you are busy building the less you build the more you criticize as you work your own jealousy dissipates you're not going to notice somebody else is motoring when you're too busy doing it yourself yourself and it turns out getting to work means you're getting your mind right show me your fridge and i'll show you your health show me your books and i'll show you your goals show me your calendar i'll show you your priorities show me your friends i'll show you your future your inputs will become your outputs so choose super fucking wisely ninety nine percent of people don't move fast enough believe it or not you have an actual cost to inaction every time you say one day you cost yourself future dollars i waited a year to take my goldman sachs job delay cost me six figures when it's go time go this one's important complexity makes you seem smart simplicity makes you money it's not just a business philosophy learning to boil complex problems down to their essential truths will improve your thinking communication and discernment the longer something has been successful the more likely it is to continue to be successful this is called a feedback loop of life and it turns out this is true for business and it's also true for you once you get the momentum going it's really hard to stop the most underrated secret to success you say you will do a thing then you actually do the thing ninety percent do not do this so say only what you mean and then actually follow through that means you keep the most important promises that you make the ones that you make to yourself the fastest way to build a memorable brand is to pick a fight the fastest way to make a real connection is to make a real impression so don't fit in stand out and if you stand up for something fight for it a lesson i repeat often never let your worry be bigger than your faith i think you should have some faith that god doesn't give you a seed without provision for it to grow so instead of you saying why it won't work maybe have a little faith in that he wouldn't give you a dream if he didn't think that it was possible for you to achieve it nobody cares about your life they think about you for one second and then they think about themselves again so you might as well do what you want embarrass yourself do the stupid thing nobody's watching anyway you were falling behind people dumber than you so start learn do it again a bit better that's it it's okay to fail but it's not okay to be afraid of failure because right now somebody who is not as good as you who has a worse product who's not as smart as you is making more money than you do why because they're not afraid to sell and start play the long game you will wish you started earlier and worked harder when you are young i promise you the earlier you plant the seeds the sooner you'll eat the fruit my husband always loves to tell me when i don't want to do something he says when's the best time to plant a tree and i say ten years ago and then he goes when's the second best time now so if you are going to start and you know it's something that you need to do do the rarest of all things do it now waking up at five forty five am solves ninety nine point nine percent of daily so wake up early like actually early see what happens working smarter not harder is a beautiful lie you will not know how to work smart until you've worked very hard for an irrationally long time if you actually want to work smarter work harder and only then can you recognize the difference between the two eyes of the problems you solve equal the size of your bank account so solve bigger problems and similarly as you make effort to solve the biggest problems in your life you'll notice that your capacity to solve problems in all realms of your life grows so just solve bigger problems the smartest people i know obsess on their reputations do not play short term games with your name my favorite story from warren buffett is he said if you lose me a dollar i'll forget if you lose me one cent of reputation you will be fired and that's something i try to remember for myself the dumbest people i know they never stop talking the smartest people i know never stop asking questions the best business school being in business don't be intimidated by labels or qualifications just get your hands dirty and the rest will follow don't always trust your self talk your anxiety is lying to you you will be fine you've already survived this far the odds are actually already in your favor if you're going to do something go big everyone admires courage no one admires the timid failing big is way better than failing small do it for the story there was a quote that stuck with me she says i'm going to pray like it's up to god and i'm going to work like it's up to me so i kind of think that if you're going to ask the big man for prayers you better back it up with some work ethic otherwise it's a little bit half baked you're not too old you're just too comfortable the most addictive drug is comfort it's also just never too late to start you know i didn't get married until i was thirty three i didn't make content until i was thirty five i didn't start my podcast until i was thirty seven at thirty i thought i'd peaked at thirty nine i know it's just getting started thirty nine lessons that i wish i knew 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