Can Trust Grow from Actions? 🤝 How to Heal from Betrayal Trauma 🌱

Because again, she— when I got into my recovery, a couple months later she started going to recovery for sexual betrayal trauma. That there was a group that she went to that she now leads a chapter of called Partners in Process. And by God's grace, uh, my mentor's wife was her mentor. So, which was just an awesome thing too. And she was taught to trust one thing: don't trust what your husband says or promises. And, and that's— that can be taken out of context. Again, we're dealing with addiction, we're dealing with a husband who had been a liar and manipulator for years, right? So don't trust what he says, don't trust what he promises, but you can trust his behavior over an extended period of time. And that might be healthy or unhealthy, but either way, what somebody shows you over an extended period of time, that's trustable, right? And, and really, let me— that's, that's true of anyone. I can— you can say something and I can I can decide to trust that or not, but I can definitely trust what you've shown me with your behavior over a while, right? And so that was number one. And she started to see healthy behavior, progressively healthy, not perfect, you know, still struggled with anger, still struggled with, you know, letting stress get to me sometimes and being frustrated and talking out of frustration, um, that selfishness and that pride. God has done a lot of work to strip that away and to root— but it took time. You know, it was not a quick process, but she started to see progressive victory, progressively healthy behavior over a period of time.