In this interview‑style YouTube segment, the author of the self‑help book Ace Your Life (Speaker A) explains the central premise of the book—overcoming "stuckness"—and shares why they personally narrated the audiobook to give it a personal touch. The conversation moves through several interrelated themes: the nature of procrastination and the excuses that keep people from acting; how subconscious routines and habits operate beneath awareness; the importance of recognizing the origins of emotional reactions in relationships to prevent repeated harmful patterns; and the broader idea that many of these barriers are hidden, automatic, and require deliberate self‑inquiry to break. Speaker B reflects on their own experience with procrastination, echoing the author’s points and providing relatable examples. The dialogue emphasizes that awareness of why we procrastinate or repeat hurtful behavior is the first step toward change, and that the methods outlined in the book aim to help people move from feeling stuck to taking purposeful action.
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But this is what it looks like. Ace Your Life.
Ace Your Life.
It's my color, so I'm very proud of it. And I actually just recorded a couple of weeks ago. I recorded the audiobook. Mm. And I narrated it myself, so I was really happy about that too. I wanted it to have like a personal touch to it. So yeah, the book really is about stuckness. And I really talk about it and frame it that way. Because if you follow this method, you'll be able to work through your stuckness. So that's, that's kind of what I'm all about. I really try to help people and really be where they're at.
Like, you know, like where sometimes the words say where he takes us, where we're at, you know, where we was in sin and we was doing this and that. But he still took us to where he's at. So I like that analogy that you use. One thing that you said too, when you started off, procrastination. I think that's a good one that a lot of people do, even myself. You procrastinate knowing that you have some things to do and you put it off and you put it off and you put it off to the point sometimes you just leave it together all alone and then just come back years later like, man, I should have did this a long time ago. You know, as you being an author, myself sometimes we began writing. I know myself began writing and then put it down and You know, sometimes you don't get back to it until later on down the line. Like, I should have been done that. So I know what you mean about procrastination because I am a victim of that.
A lot of excuses and rationalizations that we make, right? There's so many different barriers that get in the way of that. You know, if I, if I sat here and I said, you know, why do you think you procrastinate? Where does that come from? I'm sure you could tell me, right? So, or maybe not. And maybe that's why it's so hard to get through the stuckness because you're not aware of why it is that you procrastinate, right?
Right.
So, so much of it also is subconscious. So much of it is routine or habit. We don't even know why we do things sometimes. I, I had just recently, I had this interchange with a friend of mine, and he said something to me that was hurtful, you know, and, and I got hurt, you know, I felt hurt and wounded. And I said to him, like, where was that coming from? Like, I, you know, I want you to understand, like, where that came from, because then I don't feel safe. I'm worried it's gonna happen again. And he's like, I No. I go, well, that's a problem for me. For me. Because if you're not, if you're not aware of it, it's very likely that you're going to repeat that behavior. And that doesn't really feel safe for me. So I need, like, like, that may be something you really want to be working on because that's going to, like, trickle over in other relationships. It's not going to just happen with me. And of course, lo and behold, it does, because that's just the way it is.
Yeah.
So you realize sometimes even, even like habits that we get ourselves into, you know, it just becomes a habit. We don't even realize that it's just the way it is.
Yeah.
And so there's a lot to work on.
And one thing about habits, they're hard to break once you, you know, once you start it, it's hard to break it. Then again, we procrastinate, as you said, we talked about earlier, and we make excuses on why we're doing this, or why this, you know, happening, or why I can't stop smoking, or things of that nature, you know. So yeah, so I think it all ties hand in hand. And like you said, a lot of times, a lot of it, we have to work with ourselves and identify the things that's going on with us. But as you alluded to earlier, sometimes we don't even notice what we're doing. It takes somebody else to notice our miscues, you know, and bring it to us Like, hey, you need to— you like you told him, you need to change that.
