Unlock Inner Strength: Negative Emotions Expose YOU (Emotional Intelligence)

But the subtitle of my book is Unlock the Inner Strength Behind Our Negative Emotions. And that's where my mission and calling is coming in to help our culture and say, look, we have way too much of this. It's an epidemic of where I'm trying to convince people that your environment is to have no power, no control over your emotions. Now, it can influence, but it should not have power or control. I'm responsible for my negative emotions. So a key thing theme is, um, all negative emotions are exposing something in you. So one is to give people the power that my environment has no control or power. It should influence. I say, um, the first blush response to anything is nothing bothers me unless it should, right? So I can't just go around apathetic and just avoid everything. No, if it should bother me, I need to burn negative emotions to address the problem, but begin there, right? Right? So that's one. So nothing bothers me unless it should. But what do we all find? I use this analogy of like a house, right? So imagine we're standing on the front yard and, you know, you and I are sitting there talking and then somebody is there and they trigger us, right? They're doing something, they insult us or whatever, and we're sitting there burning energy processing them. And then a bunch of other people show up. So I say one is we have an opinion of what they're doing that's wrong or whatever the case is. But what we often find is you're good, but me, my emotions get inflated. Like the true importance or weight of what they're doing is like on a scale of 1 to 10, it's like a 1 or 2. And you're good. You're like at a 1 or 2 and you're addressing that. But no, Greg, he's like at a 6, 7, or 8. So my question is, what is the reason or the cause for the inflation? So a lot of times people say, there's a good quote I read that, um, people often equate the strength of their emotions with the strength of their argument. And that is not the case. So at that point, because it's inflated, I have way too much emotional energy for the situation. And if I just burn it, I'm going to cause damage on relationships, right?