Unlock Your Emotional Fortress: Mastering Insecurity, Anxiety, and Worth

So at that point, because it's inflated, I have way too much emotional energy for the situation. And if I just burn it, I'm going to cause damage on relationships, right? So I say, you got to turn around. Behind me is the house of my heart. I got to turn around and walk into my negative emotions and walk in that front door. And the first room is insecurities, right? And insecurities are on the front. And then I have the other emotions of insecurity, anxiety, fear, worry, anger, depression. It's kind of like my paradigm for counseling. But the first floor is insecurities, right? So, but then there's a door and the door goes down into the basement. So one is the, our day-to-day emotions. Basically it gets inflated because we believe a lie. Like they meant to do that, or I'll never get a job. Right. But that's one reason for the inflation that we believe a lie and then it increases the emotion. But the second reason is when you go into the basement, in the basement is the machine of identity, value, and worth. So if you ever heard that, you know, when we take things personally, like I mentioned a few minutes ago, it's that a negative event, I take it personally, which means it impacts my value and worth. So I had to, after the emotional affair, kind of go down there, which had to do with the church and everything, of saying, look, my value and worth is kind of contingent upon the approval, validation, or pursuit, relational pursuit of others. Now, so what I say is the goal is, and I have a system for walking through it, it's I don't need, let's say my wife, I don't need my wife to pursue or validate me. I mean, I want her to, but I don't need her to. My identity, value, worth is set and secure. So there's a whole process for solidifying that. I— that's what I'm saying— I control who I am, the facts about myself as my identity. I control my value and worth, right? And, and own what I need to own. But then in the basement, so there's that machine