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Regret only comes from your own choices, not others'. It hurts because it signals you're responsible, but that pain is useful data telling you something needs attention. Everyone feels it. It's not a flaw; it's how you know you're human.
Regret only comes from your own choices, not others'. It hurts because it signals you're responsible, but that pain is useful data telling you something needs attention. Everyone feels it. It's not a flaw; it's how you know you're human.
Regret has to have agency. It's something that you did. You can't regret something someone else did. It's all about agency. That's why it feels so bad, because we know deep down it's your fault. That bad feeling is a signal. It's data. It's information. It's a knock at the door. Clunk, clunk, clunk, clunk, clunk, clunk, clunk, clunk, clunk. Okay, so what do we do when there's a knock on the door? I don't hear anything. Or you can say, huh, I wonder who's there. Clunk. Oh, it's a regret. What do you got to tell me? Between the lines, you almost hear them saying or feeling that there's something wrong with them because they have that regret. And that's a huge mistake because everybody has regrets. It doesn't make you bad. It doesn't make you weak. It doesn't make you broken. It makes you human.
