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Daniel Pink argues that regret isn't something to ignore or dwell on, but to treat as data. Face it directly, write it down, extract the lesson, forgive yourself, and use it to change how you act next time.
Daniel Pink argues that regret isn't something to ignore or dwell on, but to treat as data. Face it directly, write it down, extract the lesson, forgive yourself, and use it to change how you act next time.
Regret. Regret. Regret. Regret. Regret. Regret. Regret is one of our most common emotions, but also one of our most misunderstood. And the way to deal with it is not to ignore your regrets, put your fingers in your ears and say, no regrets, nor is it to wallow in your regrets, ruminate on your regrets. Instead, the secret is to think about your regrets, to look them dead in the eye, to use them as information, as data, as signal. The best way to do that is to forgive yourself for doing that stupid thing or not doing that smart thing. To write about or talk about your regrets to help make sense of them, and then take a step back, draw a lesson from the regret. What did it teach me, and how am I going to use that lesson going forward? When we do that, regret, our painful, misunderstood emotion, is also one of our most transformative emotions.
