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Hey, guys, welcome back to the Naked Marriage podcast. We are Dave and Ashley Willis, and on this podcast, we undress the truth about sex, intimacy, and lifelong love.

And we are so, so honored every time one of you guys leaves a review for us on iTun. Read every single one of these. They're so encouraging. So if you haven't already subscribe to this podcast, leave a review on itunes or Spotify or wherever you're listening. But I want to read one of the itunes reviews for you. This was left by Dre Rangel. He says, this couple has opened my eyes to marriage in ways that I never knew before. The Naked Marriage podcast is so open and honest that we felt like they are talking directly to us. They share things about themselves that are so true and relate to our own struggles. They're so easy to listen to. Their total honesty makes us laugh at times, but we always see a message that we can apply. God has blessed them with the ability to help other couples. And the Naked Marriage will bless your marriage, too. Wow. Wow. Thank you for that, man. That fuels us, keeps us so. We appreciate that so much, and we appreciate all of you who are listening right now. We've got a really, really important topic today, one that they're all really important topics, but this one has a generational impact. We're going to talk about how to have the kind of marriage that creates a generational impact, especially for those of you who have kids in your children's lives and in your homes, to model the kind of marriage that's gonna make them excited to be married someday and to carry on that legacy of faith and love for generations to come. So let's dive in.

You know, I'm so excited about today's topic because it's one that we are actually trying to live out ourselves. We are trying to raise kids that view marriage as something beautiful and that realize what a generational impact marriage is in their own families, in their future families and their future families. And for them to understand that, we first have to understand that. And, you know, we realize the weight of that. Dave and I, we want our kids to want to get married. And especially if God calls them to marriage, we want them to have an eyes. Eyes and a heart for that and be looking for their spouse. And we are praying for their spouse right now. I love that's something that we do and that our Parents did. And you know, one thing that was just so cool to me when I first met Dave's parents is his mom told me, you know. Well, it wasn't when I first met him, but when we started getting really serious and it was clear that we were going to marry each other, Dave's mom was like, listen, I have this prayer group and I've literally been praying for you for years. I've been in this prayer group for like 15 years and we've been praying.

And she has, she did, she was praying for years.

And I just love that. Like, it just, it really touched my heart and it's just so cool. And she's like, and you got, you're just an answer to prayer. And we just love you so much.

Yes, you are.

And this is so funny. And Brad and Karen, if you're listening, I always joke about this. They are so sweet to me that they refer to me as their daughter. So when they introduce me, they'll say, this is our son Dave, and this is our daughter Ashley. And then all of a sudden I'm like hugging on Dave and I'm kissing his sister and being affectionate.

Now we are from Kentucky, where that's not as weird.

But then people are looking like, okay. And she's like, oh, my daughter in law. But I don't like to call her my daughter in law because she's my daughter in love. And so Dave's parents, they've lived out that generational impact. They realized that and they tried to pass that on to their kids. And that's something that Dave and I both wanna pass on to our kids. And so we're gonna talk about today. How do we do that? Like, how do we live that out, practically speaking?

And this is huge. I think one, if God's blessed you with children, one of the most important responsibilities and sacred duties of your marriage is to. Is to make that impact on the next generation. God wants, whether you have kids or not, he wants us to change the world through our marriage.

Absolutely.

Every married couple is a ministry missionary that's meant to go out into the world and build the kingdom and just to change the world by working together in partnership with your spouse and with God. And for those of us who have kids, man, that's where the ministry starts. That we live in a world in a generation where fewer people are getting married, people are devaluing marriage as a whole. They're looking at it as this antiquated, outdated system that doesn't work. But we've got to teach our Kids that this is timeless, right? And that societies are stronger when marriages are stronger, families are stronger when marriages are stronger. That character and integrity worldwide becomes stronger when it's rooted in a godly home and in a godly marriage. And when we take that away, there's just chaos that's left. And so it starts at home by modeling a healthy marriage that actually makes our kids want to get married. So many kids are growing up in a home where they have no interest in getting married someday. They're afraid of marriage because they look at their own parents and think, if that's what marriage is, I'm out. You know, I might live with some people, I might be in relationships, but I'm never going to get married because I've seen marriage, and that's not for me. We've got to turn the tide by modeling, first and foremost, what a marriage is. Pointing them back to God, letting them see the joy in marriage. Not that it's perfect because there's no perfect people, but a very authentic marriage. I was so thankful to grow up in a home where mom and dad, if you're listening, you guys did this. You were authentic and loving, and you still are. Made me excited to get married someday. And I wanna pass that same gift onto my kids. Not only make them excited for marriage, but actually preparing them by teaching them the character traits that are gonna help them be good and godly husbands and fathers someday so that they can carry that tradition on.

It's so true. You know, I was thinking about my own parents and how, I mean, they've been married, gosh, I mean, almost 40 years. And I'm so thankful for that. And today's parents have been married 40 years. Maybe they're working on 41 years, I guess. But, you know, we're so grateful for that because we realize that for. For at least half of the population listening to this right now, that's not the case. And, you know, when I think about my parents, I don't think about that they were perfect because there were certainly times when I know they were arguing. There were certainly times where they weren't on the same page. But I do remember them trying to work it out. And I do remember them being great partners. And even till this day, my parents are both in their 60s. They are so cute together. Like, they're so cute. And I love how they both love. They're both so good with their hands and so good with creating things and making things beautiful. And they like to flip houses together, together. And now they're working on, like, airbnbs together. And I just love seeing their partnership grow. And. And honestly, I feel like. And Dave and I have been married almost 18 years. We've watched their partnership get even closer over the years. And that's really what I long for. And we've seen that in both of our parents. We've seen them grow even closer. Because that is the truth.

What.

What Dave said earlier. You know, there's no perfect marriage, and that's not what we're going for. But we're going for a committed marriage. We're going for a healthy marriage, for a thriving marriage, for not settling, for surviving. And I think where we have to be really careful is those of us who have kids. When we hit kind of a hard, you know, part of our marriage journey, there are times when we feel like, well, I want to represent a healthy marriage for my kids. I'm not getting along with my spouse, but I'm just going to kind of survive until they are out of the home. So I give them that home life where we have a good marriage. But what they don't realize, when we get that kind of mindset, right, then we're getting an unhealthy mindset, and it's toxic, and it kind of paralyzes us in our emotions towards our spouse, in our commitment to our spouse. And so we have to be very careful not to kind of resign ourselves to that kind of existence. And I think there's been an epidemic of this where there's people that will stay married, you know, until that last child is out of the house. And then suddenly they're like, I'm out.

Right.

And it causes just as much hurt in their kids.

Yeah. And they think they're doing their kids a favor by saying, oh, we stayed together for the kids. But what you don't realize is you created a toxic, cold environment that they grew up in that just sabotaged their view of marriage.

And it breaks their heart. I mean. Cause then they're like, well, did you ever love each other? Did you ever. You know, And I get like, if you're listening to this, and that was your story, you know, what we're talking about, it's so hard.

And we're not trying to judge anyone.

And God has grace. I mean, there is so much grace here. And we're not judging, but we're saying if you are in this situation where you're starting to have those thoughts, you can turn that around. We don't wanna see you follow in those footsteps, because those who have walked through it they know that pain.

They do.

And those kids know that pain. And so we want to tell you kind of to get you ahead of this instead of kind of walking through those motions and then having regrets. So, you know, if you're in that dynamic where you want to do it well, you know, you want to have a good marriage and you want to represent it for the kids, but you're not even sure you know what to do. That's why we do what we do with these podcasts. We try to help you turn things around. And it's not even what we do. It's really what God does in your life. And you guys doing the hard work, because we are not, you know, we can't take a magic wand to your marriage. I wish we could. We don't have that kind of power. But we can give you some tools to help you guys walk through those hard steps and fight for your marriage. And let me tell you this, it might be a tense time in your home, and you might be telling yourself, you know, this is bad for the kids. We can't get through this, and maybe we should just call it quits because it's so tense right now. But what you really need to do is not believe those lies, is go get the help that you need and show your kids how much you're willing to fight for your marriage and get the help that you need. Because your kids, if they get married one day, they're gonna, you know, come to a part of their journey where it's hard, and they will know. They'll remember that time when you guys fought for your marriage, when you guys did not choose to break things off, and you fought through it and you tried counseling and you went to the church groups and you did all those things necessary to change things. And they'll remember that time. So don't feel like you have to give up just because things are tense right now. I mean, certainly you wanna make sure that things are a safe environment and all those things. But we're just talking about if you feel like you can't get along. And it's just like, I'm going through the motions. I can't get along. I don't know if we can do this. Fight for your marriage. Because when you fight for your marriage, you're also fighting for your kids, future marriages. You really are, because you're showing them what it takes to really make a marriage strong. And truly, marriage isn't easy. Marriage isn't easy. You gotta work it out. You gotta spend the time, you gotta Invest in it.

You've got to work at it. We live in this culture with this myth of compatibility where we think true love is something to be found when really it's not something to be found, it's something to be forged. It's something that you create together through commitment with somebody. And you get to choose, you know, what your legacy, the legacy of your marriage is going to be in a lot of ways. You know, you don't get to control all the circumstances life throws at you, but you get to decide, am I going to break this generational curse that came before me of everybody in my family gets divorced, or am I going to chart off in a new direction? And so I hope that you guys will just make the commitment, if you haven't already, make the commitment together that, you know, we're going to create a legacy that will last for generations in our family that is rooted in God's word, that is rooted in commitment and love for each other, where there's joy and there's peace, and we're gonna work for that. And so just trying to get real practical, because I think we all want that. The fact that you're listening right now, you're investing in your marriage right now. There's a billion things literally you could be listening to at this moment. You're listening to something to help you build a stronger marriage.

And that's awesome.

That's awesome.

Thank you for listening.

Yeah, thank you. Thank you for listening. It means a lot. Your messages mean a lot. Just the fact that you. You're connected right now, it means so much. And so, you know, pat yourself on the back, you're doing something for your marriage, and we want to help you. And so let's kind of turn the conversation to get as practical as we can and answer some of the most common questions as it relates to how to model marriage for kids and raise kids that are excited to be married and preparing them for marriage. So starting off, how much PDA in front of the kids is okay, because I grew up in a house. We grew up in vastly different houses. We've talked about this. There are videos of us kind of talking and joking about this. Ashley was in a home where, you know, her parents love each other, but there wasn't much affection shown outwardly to each other. To each other. And I lived in the opposite home where my parents were and are a couple of freaks. They're all over each other. They're 50 shades of middle age. They are just, you know, I think they're probably making out Right now, wherever they are, somewhere they're making out. One day they're gonna be elderly in the nursing home. They're gonna take their teeth out and they're gonna make out with each other. Picture them being that couple. So that's what I grew up with. And even now, I think that we kind of. It probably embarrass our kids a little bit with how affectionate we are. But then at the same time, we try to tease them, even though they're a little bit grossed out by it. You also see this little smirk of, I really want that someday. Even though they don't say that out loud, this little smirk of, like, they're comforted by the fact that we love each other and that we're not afraid to express that and. Cause, you know, one time our son, we were like, kissing, and he goes, man, why can't you be? Like, my friend's parents don't even touch each other. And we're like, that's not even what you want. You love that.

And he got this smirk.

Yeah.

Now, we do have boundaries, though. I mean, like, we will kiss in front of them, but we're not, like, full on having a make out session, right? We'll hug in front of them.

She'll try to slit me the tongue sometimes in the car line, but I have to push her away, say it's not the right time.

You know, it's just little flirtatious, you know, peck here, you can hug each other, you can rub each other's backs, you can sit on each other's lap. You know, I mean, like, I don't think that there's anything wrong with that, but I think that having, like, a passionate embrace and kissing and touching, you know, places. Don't do that in front of your kids. That's going too far. Right. And because that's more. That's a private thing. And so, I mean, clearly, I just.

Think I had a flashback to a few days ago when we were, like, in our bedroom.

Yeah, I know.

I'm thinking about it, and I came up and, like, grabbed. Cooper was there, and I was being, like, joking, but also, like, really just over the top, like, intense. Intense in my passion for her and whatever. I don't even remember what I was saying. I don't know, but I was doing. But Cooper, our oldest son, I didn't even realize he was laying on our bed, like, playing a video game on his phone. And Ashley looks at me and she goes, your son is in here. And so I just kind of pulled away.

I Was like, you need to wait till later, sweetie.

To be continued.

But no, it was funny. I don't even think. I think he was so enthralled in his game, he didn't notice. But you know, clearly we have to have some boundaries there. But I do think that we need to show affection in front of each other. It shows them also what's healthy. It shows them that you actually desire each other. It shows them you wanna be together, that you are attracted to each other. That's healthy and normal. But clearly don't have things that need to be private and overly sexual in front of your kids. I mean, you know, obviously I think a lot of us know that, but just in case you don't, that's why we're talking about it. Because it's just good because those. That's when it takes it too far and it can make it just inappropriate for your kids and it can cause other issues. So showing just a little bit of affection is very healthy. Hola, Sal de Janeiro. Here this holiday season, the world is your stage. With new limited edition gift sets packed with craveable body care and irresistible, irresistible perfume mists that bring out the brightest version of you and everyone on your list. Our award winning, visibly firming Brazilian Boom boom cream and cult favorite fragrances. Bring a little mist, a little mingle, and endless delight to the senses. Holiday's hottest gifts are waiting for you@soldejaneiro.com.

Very, very, very healthy. And so kind of to the other extreme, how much affection do you show is one question. But how much disagreement or even conflict do you show? Because there are different schools of thought. There are those who think we're never gonna disagree ever in front of the kids. We're just always gonna just kind of show complete unity. And I mean, I've had people whose parents got divorced and they were so confused as children when their parents divorced. Cause they said, I just never saw them disagree.

Yeah, they always got along.

Yeah, they always get along. But then behind the scenes, there was something totally different going on. So there's that school of thought. Never disagree in front of the kids. But then the other school of thought is let them see you work through disagreements.

It depends on what the disagreement is.

Right. I think that's a big part of it. I think that we should all agree that just conflict in general in like a loud way or a violent accusing way, that's inappropriate. Saying bad news, whether or not that's out of bounds. I think sometimes the bigger question is if you're having these knockdown drag out fights and arguments. That's not a kid issue. That's a marriage issue. Like, you guys gotta get to the bottom of that because that's not a.

Way to communicate and that's emotionally abusive.

It is.

I mean, we gotta watch that. And that's why we talk so many times. There's other episodes we have about fighting fair and how to fight in the proper way. So go back and listen to that. We have very practical things you can do if you're in that kind of rough spot in your marriage where you literally cannot talk to each other without fighting. There's things that you can do to help that, that even, I mean, counseling is a huge part of that. But even, even in addition to counseling that you guys can do right this minute, that can help you. So please go back and listen to that episode. But, you know, I think we have to first look at the subject matter. For example, don't talk about how you're dissatisfied with your sex life while you're waiting in car line with your kids in tow. Totally inappropriate, right? Okay. Totally inappropriate. Not a right issue to talk about in front of your kids. Now if you're just talking about, I.

Wouldn'T be so grumpy, kids, if your mom would ever have sex with me, like, that's just creepy. That is way out of bounds like that.

Way creepy. Way out of bounds.

The wrong people to have that conversation.

And that will burn your children's ears. So. Especially if they're adolescent and they understand what you're talking about. So don't talk about that. But I think about, if you're talking about other family members, like your mother in law, your father in law, probably not good to talk about in front of your kids because they know that and they're gonna remember it. And they may even go and say whatever it is that you're actually hashing out with your spouse about that family member. So you gotta be really careful in what they are allowed to hear based on their age and based on whatever the subject matter is. But I do think, you know, sometimes there can be like, maybe you're running late. And I'm saying this because this is me, okay? So, like, for example, I tend to run late. Dave usually is early. It's so important. And it is. I wish I was more like Dave. I need to be more like Dave. It's really important to him to be on time just to show respect for other people and to also make things kind of the rest of the day go smoother. And so, like, there's been times where I. I did not take account of time, and I didn't really give myself enough time, and Dave will be a little upset with me. That's a conversation where we'll talk through that, and the kids can hear us talk through it. And, you know, the kids can hear me apologize and say, you know, you're right. I need to work on that. Like, I think it's good for them to hear about that. Maybe it's something else, you know, if it's another issue where you're not shouting at each other, you're just talking through it. It's good to hear, you know, because that's life. You're gonna have issues.

Yeah. People that feel like you've got to just pretend to be perfect in front of your kids to keep any kind of moral authority, man, that creates just this shaky foundation for them in so many ways. I think what's better is to. Is to show them your authenticity, that when you own you're not perfect, you own it. You know, I've apologized to my kids and in front of my kids so many times, sometimes for the way I handled something, sometimes just for my attitude in general. You know, if I'm. If I get overly angry, respond to something in anger. I try to, the moment I cool off, go back and ask their forgiveness and let them see me own the fact that I was wrong. And he actually does the same thing. And so I feel like that creates such credibility with kids because they know, look, mom and dad aren't perfect, and they're not pretending to be. And it makes it easier for them to listen to our instruction, because we're not coming from this sense of. This false sense of authority that's based on this false sense of perfection.

Right.

Cause they're gonna figure out real quick, you're not perfect. And if you pretend that you are every day, it's gonna make everything you say seem like it doesn't have any credibility.

And I'll say this, too. There's been times where Dave, you know, we both kind of carry our emotions on our sleeves. I mean, we're very open. Like, we can't hide it. We're not ones to hide it. And I'll sometimes mistake. You know, Dave's like, he'll be in a bad mood, and I'll think it's me, and I'll say, are you mad at me, sweetie? And then he'll go in and be like, no, I'm not mad. I'm just frustrated. I'm not mad at you. I'm just frustrated in general. And he'll explain it and then he'll be like, I'm sorry, sweetie. And I know our kids have seen that several times. And I'll be the same way. He'll be like, have I done something? You know? So I think it's good for them to see that. One thing I think we need to watch is sometimes we can have kind of some codependent relationships with our children when our marriage relationship is not where it needs to be. And I know that sometimes spouses will talk to their children about an issue with their spouse, and that is just not a place we need to go. It's putting too much on our child with adult problems they don't even need to be thinking about. But it's also completely taking our spouse out of the conversation when we need to just go to our spouse and talk about it. So that is also way out of bounds. And that is not going to create a healthy perspective for your children when it comes to marriage. Because they're gonna be like, well, mom always came to me with her problems about dad. You know, like, that's. That's just not how it's supposed to be.

No, that's not healthy at all. Now that's a great point. And I do think that that dynamic has really sabotaged and a lot of relationships within the family long term, not only when the kids are little, but generationally, that has a generational negative impact. We're talking about ways to create a generational positive impact. But that's one to have a negative impact.

It is like, I've heard. I know some of my friends have talked about this, and I know we can all deal with different things, but they'll be like, going to their kids and be like, your dad always does this. He always does this. He is always doing this thing that annoys me. Or your mom, you know, she is always late. I mean, she is never on time, you know, and just when we do things like that, we're really undermining our spouse and we're being disrespectful and it's telling our kids it's okay. So we really had to be careful with that because it's telling, like, if you're going and ranting to your son about your spouse, your son's thinking, oh, it's okay. It's okay to talk to your kids bad about your spouse, so it must be okay to talk to other people, you know, about your spouse in a derogatory way in the same way to your daughter. And you know, and it also makes them think that if their spouse talks bad about them, that it must be okay, and so then they're not gonna expect better treatment. So, I mean, I think we need to be really careful about how we talk about our spouse to our children and also how we talk about our spouse in front of our kids.

Man, that is so true. That is so good. Now, this might seem like a lot to take in, but the good part about parenting is that you don't have to do it alone. And I think one of the best ways to create a generational legacy in your family that's going to carry on not only through this life, but into eternity is to partner with a church, to partner with a good church man. The church communities we've been part of over the year have helped us be better parents, better people, better in every way. And it also helps us not carry the whole burden alone, because you're in a community where we can help kind of shoulder each other's burdens, and we can share in a safe place the struggles we're feeling. And we can have people praying for us, and we can do the same for them. And we can invite our kids to kind of come alongside us in family friendships that really make us all better and sharpen all of us. The Bible says, as iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another. And if you're not around anybody else that's sharpening you as a family in terms of your faith and your character, then all of you are growing dull. And so you don't have to do this all on your own. And. And so I think one of the best pieces of advice we could give you to build a stronger family and to build a stronger marriage and to build a legacy of faith for your kids is to get them connected into a healthy community of faith. Find a good church, get plugged in, get connected, and that will make a huge difference. It certainly has made a huge difference for us. Even when your kids complain about going.

You know, make it, they're gonna complain all the time. I don't know about y' all's kids, but, you know, kids are kids, and the older they get, I mean, we have two boys that are in those adolescent years, and that's when they're like, oh, you know, like, they don't always want to do everything that you want to do as a family, but just because they don't want to do it doesn't mean you're not going to take them. And we're the parents, you know, we Set the rules. And we say, listen, bud, I know you don't like this, but there's going to be things in life that you don't want to do, but you're going to do them anyway. And you may even end up liking it. And most of the time, I will say, our boys end up liking it. And like, oh, my gosh, that was actually pretty cool. But I want to say this, too, for those of you listening and you're, you know that 50% or more that grew up in a broken home, and you're like, I just don't know what a healthy marriage looks like. I didn't grow up with that. And I wanna have a healthy marriage myself, but I really just don't have an example to point to. Neither one of us do. I wanna tell you that you are not alone, that there is, you know, it doesn't mean that you can't have some kind of example to look to. And that's where the church really comes into play. It's a great place to meet a mentor couple to meet to get to know people that are like 10 years, 20 years beyond you in their marriage and really get to know them. And it doesn't mean they're perfect, because, again, there's no perfect people. So there's no perfect marriages and no perfect families. But it does mean you can learn a lot from them and how they work and some of the kind of daily practices they have that make their marriage stronger and make their family stronger. This has helped us tremendously over the years. Oh, yeah, we pull a lot of good things from our own families, but we know that our own families are unique and we can learn from other families in addition to our own families. And so we. We've gone to different mentors. We've talked about this before on the podcast. We love the Lures. We've talked to them about their family and their marriage and kind of some different ways that we can adapt some of the things that work for their family into our own family. And it just enriches our marriage and our family. And so, I mean, we've learned a lot of different practices as far as, like, devotions, just even, like, what are some good devotions for boys that we can do as a family? Since we have four boys, we've learned about passport to purity, which is something in teaching kids about sex and relationships. We learned that from somebody. I can't remember who it was. So, like, you can learn so much from each other. And I'm not trying to discount people who are in your same phase of life, they might be your age and have kids the same age. And that's awesome, too, because you can learn a lot from each other in that way, too. And I think one of the greatest things you can learn from each other is that you're not alone, that you're not crazy, Kids aren't crazy. You're not doomed.

You know, whatever you're going through, somebody out there in your circle, in your church, has gone through it. Generation ago or a week ago. There's somebody that's gone through it.

Absolutely.

And just connecting out of isolation. Get out of isolation and connect with those folks. Learn from each other. It's so encouraging. It's just so encouraging. And so kind of one of the final thoughts I want to share is that just be really intentional about what kind of behavior you're modeling for your kids, because, you know, dads, listen, the way you're treating your wife, you're showing your sons how they should treat women. And you are showing your daughters what they should expect from men. You're modeling for them what a relationship should look like. You're planting seeds in their mind that are going to take root and shape the way they view marriage, relationships, the way they view love, the way they view themselves. And ladies, obviously the same thing. The way you treat your husband, the way you talk to your husband, the tone of your voice even. You're showing your daughters how to speak to a man, to a future husband. You're showing them what they should expect from a man in their life, a future husband. And so we're setting them up for success, or at least that should be. Our goal, is to set them up for success by modeling for them, healthy, authentic, real, respectful, loving relationship. And if we'll do that, if we really do that, it can make a world of difference in our marriage, and then it will trickle down and make a world of difference in our kids. And we've got a resource. This podcast is obviously a resource to help you do that. Another is our book of the same name, the Naked Marriage Book is now available as an audiobook, paperback, ebook, wherever you get your books, Amazon, itunes, all those places. And it's a lot of our story. I mean, it's kind of going back and uncovering a lot of our journey, but then pointing it back to the truth of God's word and how these principles apply to every marriage. And so that is a resource that you can get your hands on. You can go to nakedmarriagebook.com or Amazon, find out all the Details there, sweetie? Any final words of wisdom from the wisest woman I know?

I would just say, just know that you're not gonna be perfect. None of us are. And that when you mess up, apologize. I think one of the greatest things we can do is own up to when we mess up. And our kids just seeing an authentic representation of what it's like to be a Christ follower. I think knowing that we go to Jesus, we say, I'm so sorry. God forgive me of my sins, and then we go and tell the person that we messed up to forgive us as well. We ask them to forgive us as well. And our spouse, seeing that spouse to spouse happening, that is a great, A great example to our kids because I think so many times we put all this pressure on ourselves and we think, you know, oh, I messed up in front of them, you know, fighting with my spouse.

I'm doomed.

They're gonna think I'm terrible. They're gonna, you know, never wanna marry or things like that. But that's just a lie from the enemy. We need to know that, you know, God thankfully gives us his grace and he gives us his strength. And that even if you feel like you've messed up to this point, like, you have not represented marriage in a healthy way to this point. Let today be a new day for you. And keep on listening to these podcasts, keep on praying, I mean, pray that God will help you and you all, like, we all need God's help. We all need his strength. We cannot do this alone. We have to have God as the foundation in our marriage each and every day. And so let today be a new day for you. And who knows, you could be changing the entire future of your family just by keeping that in the back of your mind on how you want to make a general impact, generational impact with your marriage and with your family.

Man, that's beautiful, sweetie. I mean, you are awesome.

You're awesome.

Hey, guys, you're awesome, too. Thank you for listening to this. We love you. We appreciate you. Thank you for. Thank you for just partnering with us in this journey to build a stronger marriage and together really leave a generational impact.

That's right.

We can pass on to our kids and grandkids the value of faith, the value of marriage, and. Yeah, just stay the course. Stay the course. And we'll see you next time on the Naked Marriage podcast.

Bye, guys.