Confidence Is A Two Way Street

What is the best outcome for more confidence for me. What does that look like? Man, that feels good. Live it, feel it. Pretend you're there and let yourself say, man, I'm doing what I was meant to do. What if you don't fix the relationship? What if you don't have the confidence to start a new one? Where will you be in a year from now? Welcome to the Dean Grazios Show. All success starts right here. If you had the confidence to make the decision maybe that you're thinking of right now, about work, about income, about money, about wealth, or about relationships, about a partner, about a spouse, about kids, about anything in your life, if you had more confidence, what's the best outcome that could happen for you? Would you quit the job and go full bore into your company? Would you fire an employer or start hiring somebody? Would you go after that promotion no matter what anybody thought about, I don't know what it is, would you feel finally walk in and say, this relationship's not working, time to fix it? Or would you end one that's bad? Or would you have the nerve to try to start one after a broken heart? I don't know. And you know this is about wealth building, but man, if you got, if you're off in your personal life, if you're off with your health, it's really tough to go to another level financially if that stuff's broken. So this, this is a blanket. I want to make you successful. This is success, right? So what is the best outcome in any of those areas? And what would you do if your confidence was up? That gives you the move towards feelings like, I am going to move towards this, I am going to find this confidence. I'm going to look back on my past, I've already accomplished this. And then I want you to go the complete opposite side. So you're looking towards this bigger future. If I had more confidence, I would do this, this, this and this. But then I want you to do is, what if your confidence stays low? What's the worst thing that can happen? I attach this to a lot. I attach this to goal setting. I attach it to my weekly 90 day jumps, my 90 day sprint. I attach it to a lot. Because what we all do is we usually do one or the other. When you attach both, like what is the best outcome for more confidence for me? What does that look like? And that feels good. Live it, feel it, pretend you're there and let yourself say, man, I'm doing what I was meant to do, what I was put on this earth. To do making the money I deserve. How does it feel when you look in the mirror? How does that confidence feel when you walk in a room or your husband looks at you or your wife looks at you or your kids or somebody in your life, how's that feel? But then the opposite needs to be in play. What's the worst case scenario? What's what happen if you don't raise your confidence? If you don't ask for the promotion, quit the job, start the business, put fuel behind the business, have the nerve to take action, have the courage, the confidence to go for it? What if you don't do that? What if you don't fix the relationship? What if you don't have the confidence to start a new one? Where will you be in a year from now? Let that pain sink in, too. When you have motivators. Listen, let's just be honest. You can give somebody a business where you give them $20 bills that they can sell for $10. If your confidence is in the toilet and you're like, hey, I have a $20 bill and if you give me 10 bucks, I'll give you this 20, what do you think people wouldn't trust you? You couldn't make a business that you sell $20 bills for 10 bucks work if your confidence is low. So where will you be if you don't gain another level of confidence? Where will you be with your income, with your happiness, with your joy, with your relationships? Get the motivation. Like what I always say is what people want to know. Always ask me, how do you have so much going on? How do you keep the energy, the stamina, the enthusiasm? It's because I'll play any trick I possibly can on myself to continue to push forward. I do. And if I got to play the game of, like, in a year from now, if I don't take action with that new company, someone else is going to gobble up that space. I'm going to miss out. And I want that to be something part of my. I want to affect those people's lives. I want to write that book. I will do anything in my power to ignite me being on fire, to sit up taller, to feel better, to not let me miss an opportunity again, to live into my full potential. I want my kids to see a confident dad. Like, find ways that make you realize that you're affecting other people. Do you want to be the leader of your household? I don't mean like, I'm the dominant leader, the one that gives the example. Do you want to be the Example of low confidence. Not afraid to ask for what you want, afraid to go for what you want. Or do you want to be the one that shows the people around you that you can find you can muster up the confidence even when shit goes wrong, even when stuff goes sideways, you can gain the confidence you want even when the circumstances aren't perfect. Remember what I told my daughter? I said professionals do it with a headache. People who succeed learn how to find confidence. Even when all the things around them say they shouldn't be confident, we get to make that decision. Confidence. If your confidence is coming from the outside world, when things go right in the moment, then you're a roller coaster. Then you're going up and down with the tide, right? But if you can create it, you can find that way. You can find that happy face, that happy place. You know your why. I don't want to go into that today. But you know, if you read any of my books, go back and read Millionaire Success Habits. You know the why is important. When you know why you're doing it and you know where you're going and you can muster up the confidence. You have the decision to turn the confidence switch on just like that. And you're going to need it for the next levels of growth that you want to go through. You wouldn't be here watching if you didn't want next levels of growth. What comes first, the horse or the car? I don't know. So I'm just going to give you all the things is I watch my daughter, her physiology. When she walked two batters in a row last year, I'd watch her just like, literally, I could watch her shoulders go forward. I watch her face change, Even the way she stands. She stands in this weird, like, instead of ready position, you know, when someone hits, she's kind of standing up straight and her shoulders are down and she just like. And I watch everything change. So what triggers what, right? We know those studies. You can Google it. Go on, go online and Google the smile study simply by smiling. Literally, if you walk around with a smile, it's almost impossible to be depressed people on antidepressants or just ask them to smile in the mirror for an hour a day. The smiling in the mirroring was like head to head. I feel better, right? They did studies like this. They did studies with high school yearbook pictures where they just went and looked at the people who smiled in their pictures compared to the ones that didn't. And the ones that smiled had better marriages, made more money. Crazy. A smile, right? They did the same thing with baseball cards, right? Kids collect baseball cards. They went and saw all the rookies who were smiling big in the picture compared to the rookies that were like this. And the ones that smiled happier, more successful, more money, better relationships. Wow. So what comes first? Were they smiling because they were happy on the inside, or did the smile help create the inside? I think it's both. So why mess with it? Why not just do it? Here's what I know. When your confidence is down, you're like my daughter, you know, kind of like, you know, if I was doing this video like this for you guys, I'm like, hey, guys, no, this is. Today's gonna be really good about confidence. You wouldn't want to listen to me. You don't feel the confidence of what I'm saying. This is what I'm sharing with you isn't beliefs I have. These are things that affected my life, affected the people I know and love and people that have done amazing. Without confidence, it just doesn't work. So I know this to be true. So I could say it with conviction. I could say it right to the camera. I'm just talking to a little black dot, right? But I know you're on the other side and I know you need this. So let me ask you when you're going through your day and it's a long day and you're kind of like, oh, look at that posture, look at that compared to shoulders back smile, like, I don't know which ones. I know smiling makes you feel happier, so why not find a way to get yourself in. Check with your physiology. How am I standing? How am I holding myself? How am I presenting my, my facial appearance? Am I smiling? Am I kind of frowning? You know, people go, ah, how's your day? And they go, uh, it's like, that tells your subconscious shit's messed up, right? We're sad, we're depressed, we're not confident. No, I want to use every tool in my toolbox to protect this confidence. Like Dan Sullivan said, he gets paid 25 grand a year. He makes generates 50 million bucks a year, taught more entrepreneurs in the world. And what does he say? The number one thing I want to teach my entrepreneurs to make more money, to have a better life. Protect your confidence. Protect your confidence. So check your physiology. Look in the mirror. Check yourself going through the day. And you're like this. Say, no, no, no, no, no, no. I'm not getting in that space. No way. This is who I am. This is me, right? So check your physiology. Second what about people in your life that when you're around them, they rob your confidence? Now, you know, I tell my kids, people, you can't let somebody rob your confidence or make you feel unhappy without your permission. That's. I've been telling my kids that since they're Little easier said than freaking done. There are people in your life that make you feel like crap. There are people that tell you you're a dreamer. I can't believe you've been following that guy. You're paying them every month to learn from him. What are you doing? Just get a job. Get real. There's people in your life in a variety of ways, in your relationships, your income, your desires and dreams. There's people that want. There's people that feel they're protecting you. And when they speak, it dings that confidence. I'm not talking 1 to 10. I'm talking going from 10 to 9. There are people that put you at a 9 when you're around them. And some of you, it's your husband. Some of you, it's your wife. Some of you, it's your parents, it's your sister, it's your best friend. Holy crap. The people closest to me are dinging my confidence. You got to do something about that. I'm not saying you got to throw them out of your life. I'm not saying go get a divorce. You have to find a way to be Teflon. You have to find a way to not let someone else's words affect you. You can't give them permission to rob your confidence. You know, I tell my daughter, if there's someone in stand, you throw bad pitches, come on, do a better pitch. You want to give, do they. You want to give them permission to rob your confidence for your future? How are you giving somebody that much value? Don't you dare. So I want you to start thinking about the people who rob your confidence. Spend less time with them. And if you can't, just. Just love on them. Try to listen more than you talk. But whatever they say, you have to find a way to be Teflon. Protect your confidence with everything that you have. Your words, the words that you say, right? So think about this like someone says to you, how's your day? Ah, stressed. Look at that. How many people you know say, ah, busy day, a little overwhelmed. Ah, you know, just not enough time in a day. And all of a sudden those words, that expression, the physiology tells your body, there's no confidence here today. Just pull the sign up like, no vacancy, no confidence. Right? So if your physiology can change, can words affect you? Is there a patterned word that you say? How's your relationship? It's okay. What does that make you feel like when you say it's okay? Right. So if physiology can change, words do the same thing. They're triggers. The so start catching those words when you find yourself say a word and your face crunches up or your shoulders go down like, kill that word. No more using it. Flip it around, flip it. Find a new word that sparks more confidence. It sparks more joy to get you in a different state of confidence. Level of confidence. Right? So think about those words that do that. As always, our podcast is free. We don't even sell advertising space, so how you could pay us back is by helping other people get this information in their hands. So if you enjoyed today's podcast, go ahead and take a second and rate and review the show and tell a friend. Heck, take a snapshot and put it on your Instagram. It's the best way for you to help other action takers get the knowledge they need to live into their full potential. And if you haven't already, go ahead and subscribe now to get access to new episodes three times a week. 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