Fear Is A Good Thing... Here's Why

What if fear was actually a good thing? Welcome to the Dean Graziosi Show. All success starts right here. Hey, it's Dean Graziosi. Welcome to my podcast. This is the place where we go upstream and we anchor in the foundation for real success. Not the overnight magical money machines, but the foundation, the core, the things that can allow you to prosper. Remember, we all overestimate what we can do in a year, underestimate what we can do in five. And today, I want to talk about fear. We all have it. Let's just be honest. Fear is the number one thing that holds pretty much all of us back. It doesn't matter what we say. I'm strong. I'm powerful. You get to a certain level, you get to the edge of the cliff and you go, do I jump? Am I courageous enough to go and hope the parachute opens, or do I just go back to the safe spot? If you want to break through to another level, if you want to make more money, have more happiness, joy, freedom, control of your time, unfortunately, you're going to have to face your fears. So how could fear be a good thing? You see, let's just talk about the things that we fear the most, right? We fear not being loved. That's a human need. That's not just a fear. We want to be accepted. We want to be loved. Some of us pretend we don't, but at the end of the day, we're all trying to have our parents love us or approval from our dad, our spouse, or our significant other. We want to attract into our life or our kids. We want to feel needed. And sometimes when you go to another level, if that could be compromised, people won't like what I do. They said it's crazy. They said, I'm a dreamer. Maybe they won't love me as much. And we pause, and you play small, and years go by really fast until another time where you're disturbed, and is it the time to actually make the move right? We fear of not being good enough. Think about that. We fear. What if I try this new business? What if. What if I try the new relationship? What if I try to get in the best shape and enter, you know, to run a marathon? And I try, and I'm not good enough to finish the marathon. I'm not good enough for this relationship. I'm not good enough to be a parent, and especially when it comes to business and money. What if I'm not good enough and then we lead into imposter syndrome? You know, I wasn't not good in School, I kind of cheated a little or, you know, I'm really not that smart behind the scenes. All of these things are fear based. And it is the thing when we stand on the edge to make the move that our subconscious goes, don't do it. We're good, we're good. You know what, let's just accept an okay life. And heck, your job's not that bad. So your boss is kind of a jerk, or you don't like your hour commute, or you know, everybody off at the office is kind of eh. Or your business is doing okay, but you know, if you push it, then you could really fail big. And here's the thing, if you don't take action, aren't you going to fail big anyway? I mean, let's just think about it. I say this a lot, but if it's at the end of your life and you look back and you let fear control all your decisions and you never really went after it, you never really took a stand, you never jumped out of the plane and hoped the parachute opened, you were just waiting for everything to be perfect, all things aligned, that you didn't have fear that people wouldn't love you didn't have fear of not being good enough. You didn't have fear of the economy, of fear of failing. Would that really be a life? Or would that be a life not well lived? So I said in the beginning of this podcast, what if fear is a good thing? What if we flipped it on the other side instead of when it's time to take action, you have fear of what could go wrong. Fear of not being good enough. What if you could have the fear of not doing it? And now you're like, wait a minute, all that for this? Yes. What if you have fear of not doing. You see, I've switched fear. Do I get afraid still? Hell yes. Am I scared every day, one way, shape or form? Yes. I'd love to say it goes away, but here's what I've built. I built my courage muscle, not just my confidence muscle. And I'm gonna come back to the fear thing, but let's talk about courage and confidence for a second. Let's just be real and raw. Everybody's looking for the confidence to take action. Confidence doesn't show up in your life to take the first action. You can't have confidence to take the action if you've never done the action before. Confidence shows up after you're courageous. Think about this. If you ever went skydiving or never did or thought maybe you Will someday. I'm deathly afraid of heights. So if I pause there for a second, it's because I'm thinking of standing in the open door of one of those little planes right where you see they're holding on the wing and the instructor's like got his hand on his, on your back, ready to push you out. I think I might go paralyzed at that moment because I'm legit deeply afraid of heights, right? So if it was my first time and I'm standing on the edge of that, or you're picturing it and you're standing there, maybe you've done it before and you're getting ready to jump. You can't gain the confidence that jump out. How do you gain confidence? You never jumped out of a plane before. There's no frame of reference. You have to invoke a courage muscle. You have to invoke a courage feeling in your body to go, I'm going to jump out of this plane. The instructor knows what he's doing. I want to do this to overcome my fear. My chute's going to open and I'm going to land. It's going to be perfect. If you sat on the edge of that door and said, I'm going to jump. My instructor's an idiot. The parachute's not going to open. I'm going to splat on the ground and become a little dot. There's no way you do it. But that's how we, we approach so many things. I'm start this business, but I'm going to go broke. I'm going to lose everything. No one's going to love me. I'm going to look like a jerk. The heck with it. I'll stay where I'm at. You stay in the plane. How do you jump out of a plane? You invoke courage by saying, I got this. I trust the process, I trust the instructor. But if you jumped out of the plane three times over three months, what would happen? By the fourth time you jumped out of that plane, you'd be holding your phone, doing like selfies, like ah, tongue out peace signing people jump out backwards and do a flip. Did anything change? No. What changed is that you did it three times. The scaredness, the courage led to you actually executing. You executing. And the parachute opening, landing safe built confidence in your life. That's the evolution to overcome fear. Because if you don't take the action, if you don't jump out of the plane and hope the chute is gonna open, if you don't trust the process. If you don't focus on what could be great, not what could go wrong, you will stay in the plan forever, metaphorically. And at the end of your life, you're like, damn, I stayed on the plane. Everybody else was jumping out, having fun, doing backflips. Is that how you want to feel at the end of your life? So, as I said earlier, reverse it when you go. Instead of thinking all the things that could go wrong, think about the fear you'll feel at 95 years old. When you didn't do crap, when you didn't tap into your full potential, when you didn't experience a life well lived, when you didn't squeeze the juice out of life. When you look at it that way, it shifts everything. I am afraid of not going after. I am afraid of playing small. I'm afraid of not playing making an impact on the world. I'm afraid not to deliver you the greatest podcast and value that I possibly could. If I do that, and the more I do that, the more my courage turns into confidence and I become unstoppable. Why do you think successful people who built companies go on and build more? It's like, oh, the rich get richer. No, their confidence is up because they tried, because they had the courage. You know, I hate when people are critical of people who own big companies. When you know their backstory. When they were underdogs and had nothing and were scared to death and the world told them they were idiots and they borrowed money on credit cards and went into debt and had two bankruptcies, they found a way to create courage, to take action, fail miserably, learn from it, get back up and build confidence to change the world. Do you want to be the critic on the sideline? Do you want to be the one that let fear ruin their life? Or do you want to fear fear itself? Do you want to fear not becoming the best version of you? That's my message for today. You guys are amazing. Thanks for being here. Thanks for liking this podcast and share it with your friends. We're on fire right now because of you. And if you don't have my new book, the Underdog Advantage, go check it out at deansbook.com check it out at deansbook.com yes, you can get a free hardcover. You cover the shipping. I bought the book. See what everybody's going crazy about. Talk soon. If you liked this podcast, make sure you rate it and also make sure to click subscribe so you never miss out. You can always follow us on Instagram. And if you don't already have millionaire success habits, you can grab it for free@deansfreebook.com Remember, all success starts here.